...but men can answer as well. In a relationship, what do you consider to be an unforgivable (for want of a better term) sin? Can be one thing, two, or several, whatever and/or whichever in your mind justifies the termination of the relationship without a parole period, being receptive to heartfelt apologies and promises to do better, etc. Beside the obvious things like physical abuse, abusing the kids, constant drunkenness, etc.
Curious. Wonder how many, if any of them I've committed.
2006-12-19 04:11:22 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Well, it would be the obvious things: violence, sexual, mental or physical abuse of the children or pets, a previously undiagnosed mental illness that does not respond to treatment and gets progressively worse, illegal drug use or criminal behaviour with no intention of ever stopping, turning out that the guy was gay all along ....
I would only consider cheating unforgivable if it happened repeatedly, there was no remorse, and no intention of ever stopping the behaviour - or if the cheating was especially disgusting, like with your sister or best friend.
2006-12-19 14:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In any relationship there are bound to be all sorts of transgressions committed against and by each partner, whether knowingly or not. When you or your partner engage in any activity that upsets the other, communication is the way to go.
Basically try and set some sort of boundaries regarding what is acceptable to one another and what is not, respect one another and the relationship you both have and listen, before you commit any "sin" I am certain you know it's something that you should not do, that is why we are called adults, and hopefully you and your partner are smart enough to distinguish between right and wrong. Also, termination of the relationship goes to the point of the matter in a sense that if you/your partner are doing all sorts of things to sabotage it, maybe you should not be together at all?
Good luck, seek couple's counselling if u must, it's can't hurt.
2006-12-19 12:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The most unforgivable sin for me is "cheating". If he cheats, that means he has no respect! Not for me, not for himself. I have terminated two relationships because of cheating.
If he doesn't think of the possible consequences of his cheating, there is "no turning back".
The pain was so excruciating both times, that I swore they would never be given another chance to hurt me again, ever!!
When i give my heart, I trust with my whole being. When they damage that trust, I will never give them another chance. I can and have forgiven them, just don't ever think I want to "try again" with them.
I don't hold grudges, I just believe that a relationship with either "was meant to be". Let go and move on with your life... It's important not to blame "all men" just because of two mistakes. Everyone is diffferent, and it's okay to "trust" another, because he's a new "learning experience".
2006-12-19 12:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think almost everything is forgivable IF the man actually apologizes, a REAL apology that is. My ex husband NEVER apologized for ANYTHING he did, so I could NEVER think about being with him again- however, there are some minor and major lies that I have forgiven the current love for, because he had a heartfelt apology tied in with it. Of course abuse would not be forgiven no matter how much I loved a man. Cheating is another thing- I don't think it is necessarily forgivable, but I would give a man ONE SHOT (depending on the relationship) but I am not sure if I would ever be able to truly be able to trust him. I think humans make mistakes, and I make my share of them and would like to be forgiven in the event that I sin.
-EA
2006-12-19 12:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I may consider forgiving a man for cheating, but if he cheated with a family member or a friend, that's automatic grounds for termination. Also if a man physically or mentally abuses me, there's no turning back. That's final!!
2006-12-19 19:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Itsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of things that are forgivable but I will dissolve a relationship over Lies, Disloyalty, and Abusive behavior. I don't need a friend who lies to me, I will not be friends with someone who will share my secrets with others, and I defintely will not maintain a relationship with anyone who strikes me or others without just cause ( that's wives, children, and family members included.)
2006-12-19 18:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other than the items you listed, some forms of cheating would be instant deal-breakers, some lies would be instant deal breakers, stealing from me, most illegal drug use...
That's off the top of my head...I'm sure there are other things, but a lot is situational too...it may be a deal breaker on one situation but just a serious issue in another...
2006-12-19 18:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that lying to your spouse is one of the worst unforgivable sins in a relationship. If there is no honesty in the relationship, what good is it?
2006-12-19 17:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters never change, it's their drug of choice. Likewise a man with a substance abuse habit will bring a life of misery. Physical violence is also unacceptable...anything else will take compromise; those 3 never.
2006-12-19 14:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by Craiova 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that I am a forgiving and loving woman, but there is one thing that I will not toerate from any man - no matter how mauch I love him or what is at stake. I will never ever tolerate betrayal by infidelity - physical, emotional or otherwsise (pornography, etc.).
2006-12-19 13:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by Dovie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋