him with the empty wine bottle, he has now said that he will not MARRY ME, unless I get help for my "problem". Don't you think he's overreacting? I mean everyone likes a little wine.
2006-12-19 03:24:44 · 33 answers · asked by Helene H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
threatening him may have been whats got him thinking you have a problem. I think the problem was you asking him to open another, i think you could have avoided this by opening it yourself...
2006-12-19 03:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you drank half a bottle of wine (assuming your fiance drank the other half), that's a lot for the average woman. Most women would be under the table or pretty drunk. If you were not either, then you've either built up a good tolerance for alcohol -- which might be a sign you need to watch yourself.
Better signs that you might have a problem are the fact that you threatened him with a wine bottle for refusing to give you more liquid drugs AND the fact that he's telling you that you have a problem. If someone close to you is telling you that, it's time to listen. And if your defense, such as it is, is that 'everyone' likes a 'little' wine -- my dear, you sound like a classic alcoholic.
Clear your head and listen to your fiance. Find an AA meeting (most churches have one or more a week open to anyone) and start attending before you waste more of your life by hiding in a bottle.
Good luck.
2006-12-19 03:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a man threatens a woman it's considered illegal and he could face legal repercussions because of it ,,,,, It's different when the situation is reversed ,,,,, When a woman threatens or assaults a man then it's just normally accepted that the man can take care of himself and is considered no big deal and if he turns her in for it then he's labeled a coward or some other crap ,,,, But the situation is still that it's just as much against the law for a woman to threaten or assault a man as it is the other way around ,,,, but women seem to get away with it all the time ,,,, As far as I'm concerned ,,,, If a woman steps across the line and into a mans shoes then she had better be ready to receive a mans punishment ,,,,and be prepared too get as good or better as she gives with out squawking about it ,,,, It rarely if ever works that way though ,,,, Some women play on the fact that they are considered the weaker sex or gender and exploit that to it's fullest ,,,, That's why you hear about battered women all the time ,,,, It doesn't go on to say that they may have crossed the line where they shouldn't have and maybe deserved what they got ,,,, The man is automatically labeled the assshole in the situation and halled off to jail ,,,, So lady ,,,, the next time you want another bottle of wine get off of your big butt and get it yourself ,,,, He wasn't over reacting ,,,, as far as I'm concerned he didn't react enough ,,,, Thank your lucky stars and feel lucky it wasn't me that you threatened ,,,, You'd have learned something if it had been me ,,,, He's stupid if he still goes through with the wedding ,,,, Were it me I would have put you out in the street and sent you packing ,,,,
2006-12-19 04:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a "little" wine is drinking a whole bottle and then waving the empty bottle in a threatening way at your fiance because he won't open another bottle isn't a "problem" then I don't know what is.
Seek help honey, and be glad that your man is sticking around for now while you get it.
2006-12-19 03:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by hw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a serious drinking problem. And probably need to look for some AA meetings. True everyone likes a little wine not two bottles of wine. Remember no one wants to be married to a slush because there will come a time when you get drunk that you will get out of hand and embarrass him as well as yourself if you have not already done so.
2006-12-19 03:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are overreacting. Yes everyone likes a little wine once in a while but that does not give you the right to act the way you did. You probably do need help unless you learn to control. I started drinking when I was 15 but I learned to control from the help of parents and friends.
2006-12-19 03:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by bk hahn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it was the other way around and your Fiance threatened you with the wine bottle, how would you have reacted? Are you like that when you have had nothing to drink? If not, it does sound like a problem from the drink.
2006-12-19 03:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by Weiners and Beans 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They like WINE not WHINE......I wouldn't marry you either if you threatened me just because I wouldn't open a second bottle of wine. There is a difference between wanting a bottle of wine and threatening to injure the person you are supposed to be in love with if they don't open a SECOND bottle for you. You need psychological help for anger management as well as possible help for your insane need for alcohol.
2006-12-19 03:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by PDH 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 05:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by corbo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you drinking a little or a lot. He is clearly concern about something he has every right to be. He planning to spend the rest of his life with you. These things should be disqusted and talked out everything that concerns you both . Don't you want to have a good marriage or a marriage from hell. Evaluate whats going on with you don't get mad at everything that you might be offend about. You can't go around with a chip on your shoulder. You need to have a decent conversation with the man you will marry. Yelling and threatened is verbal abuse.
2006-12-19 03:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your fiance.....there may have been other things going on, but sharing a bottle of wine and then wanting another is actually more than a "little" wine. 'Tis the season, yes, but whenever social drinking becomes uncomfortable for one or another in a relationship, it should be addressed. Good luck to you and happy holidays.
2006-12-19 03:28:32 · answer #11 · answered by softpaww 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋