My Man and his friends!?

Question

Me and my man are perfect for each other (Getting married in March)...

The problem is his mates...

Every one of them has said i shouldn't be with him. Do you think they are trying to tell me something i don't know? Like he's with someone else too???

Even his best friend from childhood has said it - and his workmate!

Answer 1

Ohhh, I am way too familiar with this one.You see there is one problem with men.Even though these are his close friends, they are still jealous of him for having you.They are playing a common game of cat and mouse. First off that's their boy and so they hate the fact that he is going to be in a different place in life.He will be married and not one of the single click anymore.By telling you things they hope to get you to change your mind about him and not want to get married to him.See, they know that cant change his mind so they are trying to change yours.
I bet some of them even get pretty "overly flirty" with you when hes not right there with you. Right??
That's the other attempt.If one of them can get you to act out a bit on their flirt, that's when he will go to your man and tell him that you made an advance towards him to try and make you look like a cheater and a bad choice for a bride.
I know this is all terrible but trust me, mine own buddies tried the same with my wife.Its not like they hate you they just hate the situation.Believe me, once the wedding is done and over, they will stop the crap and be o-k with it all and quit there antics and give you respect..In mature I know but still common just the same.
Don't sweat it, just don't let them affect you and all will turn out good.

Answer 2

First of all you have to many issues with his friends and trust. This is a great problem and the marriage should be put on hold until you know for sure who and what you are marrying God give us common sense and his wisdom to create a comfortable life here on earth. Prepare for marriage please just don't get married because you feel like he is the love of your life true love is created. What a man does in the beginning he continues to do it in the marriage and don't you dare try to marry him and give him hell nagging and etc about all the things you should have got straight from the beginning.Get ready for a lot of work and if he is taking this lightly you better beware. God bless you to have a long talk about what you expect and what he expects out of you what you can deal with and what you can't finances and children.

Answer 3

There are two options I can see.
1. Your boyfriend is no good (he has a hidden problem, such as drinking or drugs or cheating on you) and his friends think you are too good for him. They are trying to warn you off.
2. His friends believe that marriage will have a detrimental impact on your boyfriend's time, ability, and inclination to spend time with them. So they are trying to cut you out to preserve the friendship.

Either could be true. It's hard to say. What IS obviously true, however, is that his friends do not support your marriage. Ask yourself what his lack of support may mean to your marriage and proceed with caution.

Answer 4

Hmm, that is odd that a friend would say that to you.

Consider the context and tone. Are they saying this while in serious discussions or in a joking manner? Is your boyfriend around when they say it?

If they seem to be pulling you aside and saying this, I would really wonder what is going on. Maybe they know that his behaviour isn't all that innocent when you are away.

If you are all out, including your fiance, and they say it, they are probably just trying to bother your fiance in a guy way.

If they are saying this to you without your fiance around, I would ask them why you shouldn't be with him and keep an eye on what he does.

Answer 5

If they are all saying that, I'd be more aware and concerned. Might be something to it. Any of the girls say the same thing? Maybe you need to slow down a bit, open your eyes wider and re assure yourself before you do something you MAY regret for a long time. Better be safe than sorry.

Answer 6

In some circles, this is a way for a guy to compliment a girl. "You're too good for him," is meant to be taken as a compliment, not litterally.

Do they give specific reasons? It doesn't sound like they do. They may just think they're being nice. Like when you ask someone how they're day is going when you really don't care.

Answer 7

They are not his friends they want you ! That's why they are always around they're backstabbers. Marry your man boo you said yourself your right for each other! Tell him what they said too, because you want him to know that your with him and don't keep a secret like that! best wishes on your marriage I hope it lasts forever.

Answer 8

Interesting, he chose you and he chose his mates so his judgment is to keep both you and his mates, but they are warning you.

It could go three ways:
#1 They like him the way he is and are jealous of you.
#2 He's a player and they think you are really nice and should be warned.
#3 They are ALL players and just want to get in your panties.

Answer 9

Sounds like to me that they do know something that u dont know. Find out! Talk to him and tell him about it and that u dont feel comfortable and talk to his friends ask why they are saying this to u. Maybe he has a dark side that u never seen and wont till marriage, you know some men are like that! Good luck sweetie I hope u find your answers.

Answer 10

You should confront your man about this. Maybe his friends know something about him that you don't. You should maybe talk to a couple of these guys to find out why. Talking to people is the only way you're going to find out.