What's the best way to get my husband to watch what he says?

Question

My husband and I have a 3 year old daughter and my teenage brother lives with us.My husband normally is a good guy until he sits down to play his playstation 3.No matter what game he plays he screams and yells at it.He says cuss words and the "N" word and Fa**ot.Everytime I remind him that we have kids living with us he just brushes it off,and says I'm nagging.I can't live with his constant screaming Fu**ing G*dD**n Sh*t and worse,believe me it gets worse.The last thing I need is my daughter going to her grandparents house spouting off these words.And my brother moved in with us because he's a disciplinary problem at home,this cannot be helping him any.I don't want my daughter and brother thinking that these things are okay for people to be saying all the time.I need help.Soon.

Answer 1

Record him without him knowing and then put the tape in his truck on the way to work and let him listen to himself.

Answer 2

That's a tough one.
He obviously had no concerns for his daughter when your brother is around, so maybe your brother needs to leave. He's your parent's problem, not your. You really don't need someone around that has a behavioral problem with a 3 year old in the house. Also, you don't need a teenage boy, with behavioral problems, staying in the same house with a 3 yr. old girl, who isn't old enough to tell if he does something to her. Send him home where he belongs. It's your brother, and you should love him, but you have a family to glue back together, and you can't do it with him there.
One of these days, that little girl is going to say something she shouldn't, and daddy's going to come unglued, at the wrong person.
There's a country song about that very thing. I don't remember the name of the song, or who wrote it, but it starts out with a dad driving his car with his 4yr old son in the back seat...in the song, the boy says sh__!, and dad ask where he heard that word. The boy says he's bucaroo, want to be like you.
Call a country radio station and get the name of that song, get it from the store and play it for your husband.
If he's a generally good person, he will come around, hopefully, before it's too late.
Kids mimick their parents, because that's all they know. If they aren't taught the right things, they will grow up saying the wrong things, usually in public to the wrong people.
If he wants to call you a nag, winny like a horse, kiss your hand, slap your behind, then walk away with your 3 yr old.
If nothing else, you will get his attention, maybe you can talk then. If it causes a fight, that's fine. If he yells at you, you say, "good, not that I got your attention..."
This is your family, and your the level headed one, as long as you stand your ground. If you don't do anything about it now, you are telling that little girl that it's okay to let people walk all over her, and she will grow up letting people treat her any way they please.
Behavior is learned, little girls look up to daddy, and he's not a very good teacher right now.
Tell him that.

Answer 3

Since you have already mentioned to him about his foul mouth, now you can bring out the big guns: Charge him a certain amount of money EVERY SINGLE TIME he curses or swears, whether in front of your child and your brother or not.

You wil have to be super-consistent with this, or he will never learn to watch his mouth. Use an old coffee can to keep the money in, and at the end of the year, you can take your family out for a great meal, or use the money for Christmas presents.

What he really needs to do is think before he speaks; he's got to change the way he thinks. Good luck.

Answer 4

You may have tried this but here is my idea. Talk to him before he gets on the system and let him know that that language in front of children is a form of abuse. Also that you are very concerned for the children repeating these words. Make sure he knows that you do not care if he plays the system but to watch the language in front of the kids. When they are asleep or not home then it is not as big of a deal but in front of them it is bad. I hope this helps, I do understand where you are coming from and I am grateful that my husband is not only careful of what is said in front of the little ones but there are games he will not play in front of them. It is the respect that the children deserve.

Answer 5

Put out a cash can and every time he swears he has to put in a quarter or whatever. Everyone in the house can remind him when they hear a fowl word and make him pay up.

Answer 6

Talk to your kid and your brother into playing a trick on him. Make sure they know cuse words are bad and then have them repeat every word he says and have him deal with it. Maybe facing reality might help him watch what he says. Plus it might be fun!!!

Answer 7

Fine him a dollar everytime he says those words. Put it in a jar, and every time it is said put another one in there, good way to save money and break him of the habit. He of course has to be open to it.

Answer 8

yea i have a dirty mouth too....i never use the N word, but im guilty of saying F*G and all that stuff, i tend to drop the F bomb quite a bit too. its hard to knock it off, my wife yells at me for it too, but im good around kids i keep it under lock. but it feels good to swear, doesnt make me anymore of a man but i like it

Answer 9

Don't know if this will help him but you could do the money jar, every curse word he says he has to put $5.00 in the jar....You will make some money...

Answer 10

Swear jar. He has to put a quarter in for every bad word he says.

I'd talk to his folks, too, and get them to talk to him.