After all your Madness?

Question

This is what he finally told me after ignoring him for two days..
"After all your Madness I guess after all I have really come to like you."

I can never understand how this man thinks. He is a very quiet person which gets on my nervous.Im a quiet person too but im not afraid to talk about my feelings if it feels real..
What is he trying to say.. is he just tolerating me or is he actually scared admitting his true feelings toward me ?

Answer 1

It sounds very much to me like he does like (really like you). You do seem rather expressive in terms of feelings; if he isn't it may "confuse" him to hear others speak so openly about their feelings. He is transferring his own personality on to yours (meaning he is trying to guess what you would do based on what he would do if he were in the same situation).

In the situation of expressing feelings, he sounds like he may feel embarrassed easily. He may not understand how you can be so open and free of embarassment, and this confuses him. That sentence does sound though like he is trying to express feelings (and rather good feelings) for you. The fact that he can say it at all when it sounds like it embarasses him that much may speak to the extent of the feeling.

If my assessment of him is correct (and remember, I'm guessing based solely on one sentence; and I didn't even hear the tone he said it in--so I could be off some); but if my assessment is correct than you must decide if you could be with someone who doesn't express very well. Will you always feel like he is hiding from you? It could become a big sticking point, and once your feelings get too strong it can be tough to let go. Better to deal with it now if possible. But if you feel it is worth the effort, it sounds very much to me like he thinks it is also.

Answer 2

I wish I could give you a better answer than this, but - you're right - that's a hard one to guess about.

It strikes me as a little creepy for some reason, and I can't quite say why. It just kind of seems like he's either "a little off" or else he's arrogant enough to think he has a right to judge you and then grace you with his iffy approval.

Its just kind of condescending or "put-down-y" or like something someone may say about a pet ("Oh, I know Snowball tore up my curtains; but I've become rather attached to her anyway.")

I won't say more. Maybe I don't know anything about this guy.

Answer 3

The complexities of people. I believe he's trying to say he likes you even when you're mad. Some people "get off" on irrating people. For what it's worth: if this kind of thing bothers you and you're going with this guy or engaged to him, break it off. There are too many people who will treat you differently and talk to you. If you're married and you feel counseling would "crack" him, do it. If you do it and it doesn't work, regardless what's invested (ie: kids, a house, etc.), I would file for divorce. It's not worth it.

Answer 4

That seems creepy, or reassuring.
It could be creepy because it seems he's describing you as "crazy" and watch out for the men that toss that word around. Its really just a way to trivialize your feelings. Unless your having a full-on tantrum, then its because you're crazy. When my bf calls me "crazy" its usually because I'm stressed, or emotional and he isn't mature enough to understand.

It could be reassuring because it could be his way of saying "I'm here for you, even if you really are crazy sometimes"

Answer 5

THAT MEANS HES WILLING TO PUT UP WITH YOUR CRAZY ANTICS, TAKE THIS WITH A GRAIN OF SALT, THAT MEANS YOUR MAN WILL STAY WITH YOU.