My boyfriends kids from a previous marriage(ages 2 and 8) are coming in for the holidays. I have no idea what to expect, nor do i have any idea of what do. I don't have any kids. Have not ever had to babysit or nothing, so this is very new to me. Please tell me activities, places of interest, and conversations i can have with the kids. Especially the 8 year old girl.
2006-12-19 03:15:01 · 7 answers · asked by Tisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My fiance has a daughter from a previous relationship. When I met her for the first time she was 3. He introduced me as a friend. Children that young believes that a friend of a family member is a friend of theirs. So that would take care of the 2 yr old.
The 8 yr old needs to be shown that you can are not there to take her mother's place but to be someone else that she can depend on, to look up to. You need to establish common ground with her as well.
Find out from your boyfriend before hand what interests her, because kids are very particular about what they like and do not like, and each is very different.
Some things that may be common are playparks, zoos, etc. You can ask about her friends at school, school activities, teacher, favourite toys, foods she likes and dislikes, etc.
This will show her that you are interested in her and want to learn about her and are not just interested in her dad. She has her own identity and wants that understood.
Good luck. Better now than during the teenage years. You need to accept that she may not 'take' to you immediately, and do not show signs of being upset. All children need is understanding and a lot of love.
2006-12-19 05:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The initial meeting is important. Don't over do it. If you set the bar high it will be expected to be reach every time they see. For example you take them to Disneyland and buy them all the candy they want. The will love you, but next time they see you they will expect the same if not more. Just do reasonable things. The park, zoo, movies, chucky cheese, etc. be friendly but don't be a pushover.
2006-12-19 11:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the two year old isnt going to much care the 8 year old may be a little jelous. Just take her to the mall girls love the mall especially little girls. take her skating. take her for ice cream. to the park. movies happy feet and charlotts web are out she will love that. or do like a makeover party. turn on a movie pop the popcorn tell your boyfriend to go somewhere and you and her have a makeover girls party let her fix your hair and put makeup on you and you fix her hair and put makeup on her and put dress up clothes on it would be so much fun. Shes going to love you just take a deep breath kids are so much fun she'll let you know what she likes to do just try not to be bossy to her she might rebel if you do that. Have fun.
2006-12-19 11:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy them cool toys. Get some girlie movies for her, like Hannah Montana or Bratz or Barbie stuff. Be sweet at first but don't try to be their mother. And from one step mom to another future to be, demand respect in the beginning or they will run all over you later. My stepdaughter and i have an awesome relationship, i have always stood firm with her when she isn't supposed to be doing something or something was done that was wrong, and my husband has always relented, he doesn't understand now why she won't listen to him at all, and talks back, but she listens to me and we have a good time and no problems whatsoever anytime! I am not her mom, i am not her friend i am a new meaning to the word stepmom cool and awesome at the same time.
2006-12-19 11:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make-up, do a kid makeover providing it won't make mommy mad. Coloring and play dough all kids love this. You could play board games. Talk about school, santa, the typocal stuff. And don't forget to wear comfy shoes for chasing the 2 year old. . .good luck look for kid friendly web sites, and holiday movies
2006-12-19 11:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer Lu22 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't "expect" anything
Don't try and buy their affection
Treat them with respect
Don't go overboard trying to do things
Give the 8 year old time alone with her dad
Just play it by ear and let what ever happends, happen.
Do not over react to anything, remember, it is scarier for them
2006-12-19 11:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well most kids like pizza, chuck e. cheese or something similar at the mall they have places you can go to do things i don't know where you live so i don't know what places to recommend
2006-12-19 11:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋