Last night, My bestfriend found out that her ex-boyfriend had a new girlfriend, and she was highly upset because just the night before he asked her back out. And even though she declined, she still was furious. Well, I did alittle detecting and I found out that my other best friend was the girl that he was going with. (now keep in mind that these two girls NEVER liked each other) Well, I wanted my other bestfriend to tell the girl to her face that she was going with him so that they could talk and at least see eye to eye!
So last night I took both of them out to dinner and the girl came out and told her. Well, the other girl got pissed and was extremely mad. But the only person that she got mad at for real was me!! And she told me that she was dissapointed at the fact that I did not tell her first. And I cried all night because she later on told me that we could not be best friends anymore.
I don't know what to do! Was I wrong for doing what I did? I don't know how to think or feel.
2006-12-19 03:13:35 · 9 answers · asked by redbone 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Redbone: The truest test of 'best' friendship will soon prove itself when she fully apologises to you when she realises that what you did was for the best. Don't worry - it will all work out in the end................
2006-12-19 03:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa this makes my head spin, but I think I can still try to help you. Okay, first of all I don't think your best friend should be mad that her ex has a girlfriend. I mean, she has to forget him and move on. You might want to tell her that. I think with time she will get over the fact that her ex has a girlfriend, and why does it matter anyways that it is someone she doesn't like? Her ex was probably just trying to mess with her head or something. I don't think you were wrong to take them both out to dinner like that, you were just trying to help.
2006-12-19 11:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by katherine dunston 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen redbone:
You were not wrong for that!! And do you wanna know why? Because your actions came from your heart! I could understand if you were just trying to start some ****, but you see very honest about how you went by things and I believe (just my opinion) that your friend shouldn't have gotten mad at you. She should've really respected the fact that you wanted them to work things out on their own instead of putting you in the middle of **** trying to tell her everything all the time.
You could have told her being upfront about things, but you didn't! So oh well, get over it!! And if she can't except that you really do care about her enough to even think to care of HER situation, then you need to go ahead and let her go.
Remember............. You can't make eveybody happy, or except how or who you are.
2006-12-19 11:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Athalia J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, this time you really did a big mistake.. In a good act, you are trying to help...while in bad act, you are making your friend a clown..you make her feel embrassing... Of course anyone will feel sad when the ex got a new gf, however that guy is who we love before.. Your role is to comfort her not to embrass her in front of her ex new gf.. I know you are trying to help, but you choose the wrong way...Since you really appreciate her as your best friend, you better apologize to her, i believe she will forgive you if she treat you as her best friend.
2006-12-19 12:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sweety21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should you tell her? your not the one who went out with heim? she needs to get over her self......if she wanted him back she shoul of said yes. you did the right thing, you could have been a B**** and never told her, she should appreciate you and how much of a friend u have been and helping her get through, not lash out on you. if u didnt do this she could of ran into them and made a fool of her self in a public place....if she dont realize what good of a friend you were then she lost a boy and a really good friend...
2006-12-19 13:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldn't done that you should of told your best friend what u know and let her take the decision of talking to your other friend or not. I think u should go to u'r best friend and tell her what u wanted to do an why.
2006-12-19 11:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by din0 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't your fault that friends betrayed each other. You could have told her what you knew first instead of the other one telling her. So don't feel bad.
2006-12-19 11:25:03 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy K. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well to me your friend was right, you ought to tell her first before doing what you did. Well call her and apologize to her regarding whathappened last night okey.
2006-12-19 11:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by Oshoke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why did you that for? i be mad at you too.. if you were my best friend.. You should go say you are sorry.. and ask her forgiven... you do not wanted to lost best friend
2006-12-19 11:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by babyg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋