Expecting baby in June. Live in a basment. How can i keep baby quiet so neighbors don't complaim to landlord.

Question

moving is not an option right now

Answer 1

There are some things you can try to do to stop the baby from crying for so long, but not to stop him from crying at all.

My three month old son only cries when he's hungry. To help with that, I make up bottles in advance so I don't have to spend the time he's screaming preparing them. Most babies eat every 3 hours, so even if you prepare a bottle every 2 hours, that should lessen the time he's crying. If you're breastfeeding, breastfeed about every 1.5 hours. If you're using formula, you can keep the bottle out for 1 hour without having to put it in the fridge. This will help with the time it takes to heat up a bottle. Whether your baby is crying at 3 hours to eat or not, go ahead and feed him. If he's hungry, he'll eat. If he's not, he won't.

Babies also love movement. Invest in a swing and/or a bouncy seat that vibrates and has music. It will keep him interested while you're cleaning, cooking, or going to the bathroom. If he's crying and nothing you do will make him stop, put him in the stroller and go for a walk or put him in the car (in a car seat) and go for a drive until he falls asleep.

Pacifers help, too. You can also invest in a sling that goes around your body (Babies 'R Us) so that baby will always be close and able to hear your heartbeat when you're doing other things.

Babies also don't appreciate large spaces. Instead of putting baby in a crib for her first few months of life, but her in a bassinet. This will prevent her from waking up terrified in the middle of the night. Also, swaddle her (find tutorials online if you're not sure how to do this) at night or when she's taking a nap. We also put Ben to sleep in his boppy pillow so he feels like someone is holding him. She'll sleep more comfortable and is less likely to wake up upset.

Your baby will cry, that's a fact of life. And most people understand. I wouldn't think they would complain unless she was crying 24/7 (some babies do), but make sure you talk to them (especially the people that live right above you) before you give birth. Explain to them that you'll do your best to keep the crying to the minimum. And a baby's cry is not a disturbance to the peace, so there shouldn't be a problem with your landlord.

Answer 2

Impossible. All babies cry, luckily. That's how they express their feelings and needs, that's their way of communication.
Consider your baby more important than the neighbors or landlord.
Look for help in your community, your church, where-ever, be a mother, take responsability and asking help is here the right thing to do.
And if your neighbors or landlord cannot deal with that, try to move before June. By all means.
Good luck.

Answer 3

I am not sure if you are saying that the landlord does not know you are living there? or having a baby? or you just need it to be quiet to be able to stay there?

But, as a mother of two grown children I have many regrets. ONe of which was that my needs were more important than theirs often as I had so little of what I needed to be a whole person from my own childhood.

HOwever, keeping the baby quiet must include your loving and nurturing that baby in order for it to grow and have the proper love and attunement that only a mother can provide. I think if you love the baby as only a mother can, holding her/him when he/he cries and just allowing the little person to become a whole person, the baby will be comfortable and quiet. You can not spoil an infant as many old wives' tales have stated. Holding the baby close to you, breastfeeding, etc. is a way to love that baby into existence. You only get one chance. when they are grown you cannot go back and recapture those years and the pain of that reality sometimes overwhelms a mother.
IIf you aren't sure how to do this there are plenty of good parenting books, one of which is Parenting From the Inside Out by Mary Hartzell and Daniel Siegel.
If I could give you words of wisdom that would last you and your baby a life time I woudl say get ready to give of yourself like no other time and you will find it so fulfilling and rewarding for both of you as future healthy adults. These first three years are literall y the foundation of the adult you want your child to become. How you love them and attune to them will determine who that child will become. So think about who it is you would like to see them become and start molding them with your valuable love and input.

Answer 4

I understand, I also live in an apartment and my neighbors upstairs are so d*** noisy!! At the beginning was very hard because my little one got very disturbed. So, one day I went up and talked to them, said that I had a newborn baby and that it would be nice if them could keep it down & quiet...they seemed to understand and it got better...anyway she has accustomed to hearing noise and everything, it's easier now (she's 6 months old) that she knows the world outside mommy is noisy....it is harder when they are newborns. Talk to them, you won't feel that uncomfortable when your baby starts crying because he/she can't get any sleep from all the noise! Do it before the baby is born....and congratulations!

Answer 5

Your neighbors will have to understand that babys do cry at times. Unless you live in a building that doesn't allow children, there is nothing the neighbors or the landlord can do about the normal crying of a newborn.

Answer 6

the best way to keep a baby from crying is not to be anxious or stressed about it. The more anxiety and 'you NEED to be quiet now', the more pressure the baby will feel and the more it will cry. Of course you may not leave it is the crib at 2 with a tantrum cause he wants to sleep with you... that will be a decision then IF that happens. but for a little guy.. just be relaxed. Babies cry and maybe yours will be quiet

Answer 7

Don't even bother about your neighbor.
I live in an apartment complex and every time my son cries, I'm sure everyone hears it.
Baby can only cry to communicate his needs, what else do they expect him to do. So I guess, your neighbor has to deal with it. It's not like you're having a huge part or something.

Don't feel bad.

Answer 8

I'm not trying to be smart, but if you can keep a baby quiet, please let me know how you did it. every baby is different. lucky me got blessed with two babies that don't and didn't cry that much. my first son only cried when he was wet,dirty,hungry,sleepy or sick. he is now 2 1/2 yrs old. and my 2 week old baby is the same. the only thing that is different is when my first son was born he ate every 3 hrs but this son eats every 2 hrs. you may have a baby that crys all the time or a quiet baby that only crys when he/she is hungry. but if you do get your baby quiet all the time, please let me know how you do it. good luck though,you'll need it and congrats on the new baby.

Answer 9

Do not be ashamed when your baby cries. Every body loves babies and so be proud of that. Your baby may turn out not to be the crying type, even if he becomes the crying type, believe me, your neighbors would not be disturbed. It may all be in you mind for now because of the natural anxiety that comes with it. Congratulations in advance and merry Chritmas.

Answer 10

Baby's cry it's part of life and if your neighbors have children they'll understand. Anyways i wouldn't care what my neighbors think or the landlord, your baby is going to cry anywhere you live.