My boyfriends and i have been dating for exactly a month, but we have been together (not dating but acting a lot like it) for about 2 or so months. we have gotten in 3 fights, two of them about his ex. they have been broken up for 5 months and he says he hates her but i have a different idea. he always gets upset when she does something. so obviously he really cares about her. he has also pushed me away when her friends are around. is our relationship true or is he really just trying to replace her? should i get out of it?
2006-12-19 02:59:53 · 10 answers · asked by disastrobella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get out! He's not over her, your probably just the rebound girl (not to be mean). If he pushe's you away when HER friends are around, its obvious that he doesnt want them to tell her about you so he must be leaving her open as an option. Which means he will probably dump you if he even THINKS she wants to get back with him. You are right, when a person is so filled with hate about a person they are just trying to get over the fact that they REALLY love that person.
2006-12-19 03:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious to me that your boyfriend or whatever it is you call this that he can't make up his mind what it is he wants to do, whether he loves his ex or hates her or he is in love with you or not. you need to have a serious conversation with your guy and let him know that you want to know where you and him stand in this relationship if that is what is. He could be playing you and you would never know what he was up to. He could still love her and keep it from but you should get the courage up and find out what is true and what is not your man should give you an answer if he is honest. If he can't be honest about anything then it seems that he has been playing you and just wanted you just for you to be there and you don't need that. When you get the answer you are looking for then you will know what you need to do next concerning this relationship.
2006-12-19 06:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and I am telling you right now...GET AWAY!!! Nothing wrong with having feelings from a strong but failed relationship. Sometimes they don't die so easily or quickly. The bringing it into your relationship and the actions you say he is displaying...unacceptable. I'm sorry but he is definitely hooked on her, not you...again, sorry. You need to hear the truth from a guy. That is how it is and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Good luck.
2006-12-19 03:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by deeply interested 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it might be better to get out of it. if he still has feelings for you ex or you think he might he probably does. you never know with guys, i think he is trying to replace her. i use to hate it when my boyfriend would talk about his ex and we got in a huge fight about it but we decided together that he wouldn't talk to her and it made everything better. it's only been a month and this is already happening, i think it's better if you escape now before you get too caught up in it
2006-12-19 03:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mandie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might be a rebound. You should back away, spend some time apart, don't call him as often let him call you, give him space without him asking for it, so he can sort thru his feelings and determine if he misses you or wants her back.
2006-12-19 03:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants her back your just a back up call a temp if you will!
I'm sorry it sucks to be a back up call but use him for what you want and get out!
2006-12-19 03:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must get out of this as soon as possible.
2006-12-19 03:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, it seems like he's just trying to replace her. he's hiding his true feelings!
2006-12-19 03:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by ~sasha~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your instincts-
2006-12-19 03:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your heart knows ,,,follow it
2006-12-19 03:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by yome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋