Well after a brief pause, his unit leader got on the phone and called me basically everything but a child of God. Should I report his commander for abusing an American civilian?
2006-12-19 02:44:54 · 80 answers · asked by akissbythenile 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. No way should anybody be abused. Ever!
2006-12-19 02:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 15⤋
Wow what a frustrating relationship. He has many issues: insecurity, a lack of remorse, no conscience, a mean streak, cruelty to animals, a lack of loyalty, master manipulator, etc. Unfortunately, he shares many traits with sociopaths. Perhaps his time in the military or in the police force has had some negative influences on that, or maybe it was in him all along. I think he must resent his marriage. Maybe he wants the good stuff that comes with marriage but not the baggage he feels he has been saddled with, such as commitment. Either way, I don't think your well-being is in the right hands. He does not value you. He misses his affair and would cheat again if he thought he could get away with it. I don't think I would work anything out with this guy. He will leave you twisted, bitter, unable to trust and angry. You need to just leave. Be careful about how much time he gets with your kids unsupervised until you can be sure he won't take his anger on you out on them. Sounds like he is already showing signs of being an unstable father. Nope. There is no saving this one cause he isn't worth the fight.
2016-05-23 07:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should be reported to someone who can punish you for abusing a man who s defending our country. What could you not go without sex? Could you not own up tp your wedding vows? You are a sad individual. You could not even wait until he got home to tell him face to face and so the news would not endanger his life. With what you did, in my opinion, if he dies now you should be nailed with at least manslaughter. I do not understand woman like you who do not take your vowa serious!!!The guy you plan on leaving your husband for does he know that he is next in line? Something ewillmake you unhappy and you will find another, he just better he too does not have a gun to his head. I would say the unit leader is now worried about the safety of that hard working man and the rest of the unit. You are sad and this is mild.
2006-12-19 03:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why ask me? You already know what you are and if you don't, well, then you are pretty damned stupid. By the way I have no respect for you what so ever and oh yeah I read your other post and I figured you would be stupid enough to go and do what the majority told you to do. They were playing a game, a lot not all, I wasn't when I told you what I thought you should do, with you just to get points. As I figured you wouldn't be able to make up your own stupid mind. At least I tried, and now you have the gall to come and ask us this question. What are you playing at???
You know something I wish to find out who that commander is so I can reward him.
2006-12-19 11:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would say something to his commander, but are really surprised that it happened? Have you no heart? These men and women are over there fighting for us here in the United States and they are faced with dangers that we can't begin to imagine. The timing is way off for you to have done what you did. I have watched showes on this and they say that a lot of men and women tell their partners this over the phone and than they just don't care and that is not a good thing over there. Tell me this how could you see yourself as the victim here. My heart goes out to your husband and cheers to the person that told you just what he thought of you. You have deserted your husband when he needed you the most, you should be proud of your husband, and a shamed of yourself for being so self centered that you could move on while he is doing all of us a favor by keeping us safe over here. Shame on you and that other guy, do you really think that this new relationship is going to work? Once a cheater always a cheater, isn't the old saying??
2006-12-19 03:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by motherof two 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I find what you did a bit insensitive. First off, he's in harms way and the last thing anyone wants is him being emotionally stressed during this time. Such news can have a very serious impact on anyone, and you don't want him to be distracted while he's facing an enemy out there. Obviously, you didn't think about those potential consequences.
Having said that, this is something totally between the two of you. His unit leader has no right to get into this and talk to you the way he did. I think you have the right to report about him but not sure what kind of an action the military will take on such complaints.
You cannot expect civilian code of justice or procedures applied to people serving on the military.
The least you can do is pray for your husband's well being. Better yet, hope that he'd call you back and when he does, be decent enough to tell him you guys could sort things out when he returns home.
2006-12-19 03:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Oh yeah....you are the one who just broke your husbands heart while he's far, far, far, away from home fighting for his country and all who live in it. Then someone who is like a brother to him gets pissed and calls you the names you so rightly should be call. And now on top of being awful this your husband, you want to report the commanding officer. I think you've done enough damage. Stop wallowing in your self pity and get over yourself. You just messed a man up. Someone going through something you may never have too. I'm amazed you can sleep at night.
2006-12-19 08:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by JME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is serving his country and putting his life on the line and you could not keep your pants on until he gets back. You couldn't keep your mouth shut till he came home. Lady and I use the term loosely I hope what goes around comes around really quickly to you. You ask should you report his comannder. I say you should loose all your government benefits this minute. You have been using his government benefits to party while he was gone and you think you are a saint. I hope this other man dumps you just like you dumped your husband. You think he won't cheat on you since that is what he is doing now seeing a married woman. Live with the thought once a cheater always a cheater, you will be watching your back for the rest of your life. Could not happen to a nicer person.
2006-12-19 03:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by springer 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How cruel of you. The man is over their risking his life don't know if he's going to make it home alive or in a box and you could not wait until he got back from hell to break that awful news to him. You are so selfish. I know you are having an affair and all that but you could have at least waited. Yeah, his commander had every right to talk to you like he did. You do you know how many you could be putting at risk because this one soldier is upset. So suck it up and no need to report him. You were in the wrong. Didn't mean to get on you so hard but you need to know all the possiblities. Good luck with your new life.
2006-12-19 04:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by kitcat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must be a cold, callous person. You are obviously a cheater, you are inconsiderate of a man who puts his life on the line every day. I agree with anything the commander said about you. It was probably true. People like you should be ordered to do community service in the heart of Baghdad. Then you'd probably appreciate the military a little bit more. Your husband actually deserves better than you.
2006-12-19 04:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know who I dislike more, you or Saddam Hussein.
You have already committed adultery, what was your hurry to deliver this horrific news to a man who has nothing to hold on to but his family.
A soldiers life is so lonely.
They cling to memories of their loved ones while they are away.
There only life-line is the letters, and good news from their loved ones that help them stay the course on the long hard battlefield.
You, my dear, have just shattered his world and his unit and commander.
It is apparent that his commander and his unit love him more than you ever could.
Please do the right thing by giving this entire site a mailing address so everyone here can write to your husband and thank him for our freedom, and our letters will help him come home safe.
I will keep you in my prayers, because you will need them, once you awake from this nightmare.
2006-12-19 03:39:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋