Why don't people ever actually stick it out instead of running at the smallest problem? It's so sad. My boyfriend and I have been through so much that most married couples go through later in their marriage and we've come out even stronger! Our relationships' amazing!
2006-12-19 02:41:18 · 33 answers · asked by Bridezilla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Elisa D: try trying to enjoy things in life - it's YOU who decides what you can do. A marriage shouldn't prevent you from making your own decisions. Try doing joint things together - reignite stuff!
2006-12-19 03:20:00 · update #1
Terrell: We're ARE getting married in a years time. We just wanted to get our relationship well established.
Bite me.
2006-12-19 03:24:22 · update #2
Good for you. Why not get married?
2006-12-19 02:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by trixi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing and the others that call it quits too soon miss out on a life time of joy that also comes with the work and devotion to makeing it work. Wedding vows and commitments have become as disposable as paper plates in ouir society. It is sad. I think part of the problem is sex. If they do not have fireworks all the time they do not feel it is Love . That is so wtrong. Sex is a bonus in a good relationship that two people work on. It should never be any deciding factor. Best of luck to you and have a Merry Christmas.
2006-12-19 03:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each person is different--it's the way they were raised and what they were subjected to. This is an example-I'm not suggesting that this ever happened to you. A child grows up seeing her mother hit--the mothers reaction is to cry and gripe but she doesn't leave. The child grows up and gets in a relationship and is hit--she will stay and not be horrified at what happened. She is conditioned.
Another child who has seen her mother respected and loved will not stand for abuse as easily.
Some people can't stand being hurt and staying in a relationship where you are scared is a hard thing to do. Every day having to look at the guy that cheated on you or hit you kind of sucks.
2006-12-19 03:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by MamaCat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So why aren't you guys married then? Just a question. I suppose because we are all selfish and marriage forces you to be the opposite of this trait in all of us. Some of us can hold it at bay while others give in to it. It seems that once the marriage takes place the belief that the other person will uphold their part of the deal falls apart. I also found that people tend to believe a lot of the crap society says about men and women. Men don't always cheat, and women are not always after your money. Once we do that maybe marriages will begin to be what they once were.
2006-12-19 02:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right..................many married folks out here seems to run at the slightest problem & they have 'selective amnesia' when the minister said "in sickness & in health, for richer & for poorer, etc." We should all do well to read up on those couples who have been married for 40 plus years & we would be surprised as to what held their marriage together------but then again, we might already know what some of their secrets are! I'm glad the two of you have an amazing relationship & keep up what ya'll doing. If marriage is in the future for you, KEEP UP with whatever is holding ya'll together when you make that transition!
Peace***************************
2006-12-19 02:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by LuvlyOne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have decided that not sure is the way to go about life.
Marriage, by most common people (not meaning commoners {though quite a good deal of them do} but the common man and woman), is merely a legal binding. It has very little to do with devotion and even less to do with work.
Love should be easy, nothing should be difficult, everything in life should just come to you. (being sarcastic).
People don't care to "stick it out" and that's why the divorce rate is so high.
You're very fortunate to have such a devoted boyfriend. :^) He is rare.
2006-12-19 03:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by mmmb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think its because people have expectations when they get married, and thats never good and when they find out how the other person is they bail cause they dont like it, and they think there is something better out there when there is really not I have been married 5 years, and there has been times i just wanted to go cause its hard but im still hangin in and, I think you are a good person for hangin in and getting though your problems and I wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-12-19 02:49:09 · answer #7 · answered by ncgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because people are never 100 % sure of other people. The only person you can trust is yourself and maybe sometimes in love its better to keep a little love back for yourself. Im not cynical just realistic. My relationship is amazing too, but i dont fool myself and realise that I am very privledged to have such a great bond. Its not always that simple and some people settle for what they can get rather than what they want.
2006-12-19 03:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by goobygum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people are afraid to be alone, so when the opp is there to get married they rush into it. And who are you to judge if htey are running at the smallest problem? You don't know what goes on in peoples private lives. What may seem to be a small problem for one is a huge for another. Everyone is free to do what they want and live their lifes as they choose.
2006-12-19 02:46:02 · answer #9 · answered by strtat2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every marriage is different and most people don't run at the smallest problem. I'm glad that your relationship is 'amazing' but it might not always feel that way. So don't criticise those whose relationships haven't worked out. It's life and we are only human.
2006-12-22 10:00:56 · answer #10 · answered by chelsea19622000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pressure from family and the significant other. some think that they have the best they'll ever get, so they just "settle" for it. i actually know a girl who's dad is a big real estate agent and all of his kids get a house REALLY cheap when they marry- she marries just to get a home and doesnt even have a real realationship with her "husband". it is sad and very discouraging. i think coming through things like that do make people stronger. i think my bf and i will be one of those types of couples.
2006-12-19 02:46:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋