What to do my ex-wife says she is pregnant but I don't know if I am the father she cheated on me for 3 yrs.?

Question

she dumped me for another guy. When that didn't work out she came to live with me temporarily. She says she wants an abortion, I told her do what she thinks is best. she asked what I thought her I said your going to murder my unborn child (if its mine). She said I killed her spirit which is worst than abortion. I have mixed feeling we are not together, So how is person supposed to feel when says an ex saysi am pregnant it might be yours but I think its better if I abort this baby we are not in a stable relationship why bring a baby into already F-U-C-K-E-D up situation??????

we have been seperated for year and 2 months she has come back only within that last month

Answer 1

Get DNA. It will prove the paternity.

Answer 2

Like it or not, under the state of the law in the U.S., even if you are the biological father, the decision of whether to keep the baby is hers, and hers alone. You might complain about the "fairness" of the situation, for all the good it will do you (which is none), but that's the law, so you might as well deal with it.

However, telling her to "do what she thinks is best," is translated as "I don't care what happens." Best thing you can do is clarify your opinions, and make your feelings known. Above all, stand up and do what's right, because if the baby's yours, you have equal responsibility for the child.

Try this on for size: "I do/do not think it's a good idea to keep the baby. Here's why:__________. If you decide to keep it, and test results determine that the baby is mine, I will support your decision, and make the best of the situation, because being a good father is important."

Answer 3

you are being manipulated by your ex. I would ask why the hell have you still been sleeping with her, but its not really relevant at this point. All you can do is wait and see what she does. if she aborts consider yourself lucky, and learn from it. if she goes ahead with baby, wait til its born and have a dna test done.
men NEVER get the fair end of the deal, and i hope for your sake she has an abortion.

Answer 4

yes it's a bad situation but you are both at fault. She cheated on you but you let her come back and you had no right to say "that she was murdering the child". That wasn't a good thing to say, in fact it was very cruel of you.

You two better decide on what kind of relationship you want or none at all before you do anything else

Answer 5

I would have dna tests done and if your not the father, dump her like a bad dream. She is using you and playing on your sympathy I think. And even if you are the father, it doesn't mean you need to stay with her and toss your life down the toilet too. Sounds to me as though she is far from grown up and doesn't intent to stop playing games with peoples lives. You don't need that pal.

Answer 6

There are too many people in this world that could offer that baby a better home if thats what your worried about. As soon as the baby is born assuming she lets it live, you should have a paternity test completed.

Answer 7

Quit catching hoes after they fall down, let her *** see what the guys she dropped your *** for will do about her f*U*C*K*E*D*U*P behavior. Don't be a sucker for love man she ain't no good man! Let her deal with her own mistakes and save yourself alot of heartache find someone who will treat your right good women are not extinct!

Answer 8

GET RID OF HER, IF SHE CHEATED FOR 3 YEARS, THIS IS
PROBABLY NOT YOUR BABY, STOP LETTING HER USE YOU AND STOMPING ON YOUR FEELINGS !!!!
GO AND GET YOURSELF A REAL GOOD AND HONEST WOMAN, SHE IS LOST IN HER OWN MESSED UP WORLD,
SHOW HER TO THE DOOR FOR THE LAST TIME !!!!
GOD BLESS YOU AND MERRY CHRISTMAS !!!!

Answer 9

Would it make a difference if you are the father? There are tests that can confirm this.