What to make of this email from my man??
"I'm not the same man around you.
If you were to turn up down the pub say at work or at home and see me you would see a different man babe. I'm full of it. Love the attention from everyone, go round the pub thinking I'm the man, full of confidence. When I'm around you I feel quiet and on my guard all the time. Can never just relax like when I'm around friends, always thinking about stuff rather than enjoying myself"
2006-12-19 02:26:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't agree with him. I give him loads of attention, and he's always telling me I don't give him enough then gets annoyed.
He is also very paranoid and high maintenace, but in return he's very sensitive and attentive.
He seems impossible to please, there is always something wrong that we need to talk about.
2006-12-19 02:53:38 · update #1
So that you don't take the pressure for this one, make sure that you have no unrealistic expectations on your man, make sure that you are not too demanding of him in an unrealistic manner. Sounds to me that he thinks that YOU want him to ACT a certain way around you.
Life is about being who you are and most comfortable in your own skin. Don't let him put any guilt on you. Make him accountable for his own actions.
2006-12-19 02:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by TracyBee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound too good to me. He has just said that he is a different man when he's with his mates than when he is with you. I would ask some serious questions. If you don't get the right answers. Dump the loser. Go party and get a real man who will appreciate you for you. He sounds as though he is trying to let you down gently.
2006-12-19 02:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by JillPinky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's telling you he's a player and isn't comfortable around you. He is easily annoyed, craves more and more attention, is paranoid and high maintanenace, and always has an issue that needs discussion. Sounds manic to me. And the sensitive and attentive spin sounds like manipulation (so you won't focus on his constant need for upheaval). You need to get this man out of your life now. If it is such a difficult relationship now in the early stages, it will not improve. RUN.
2006-12-19 02:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by tellme.lies 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He gets nervous around you, obviously... the question you need to ask him is... why? There is something he doesn't like about himself, or something he doesn't want you to see when he is "relaxing" around his friends. Ask him if you bring out the best in him... if you do, then the relaxation time he's talking about isn't really relaxing... it's just lapsing. Give him room to sort out his feelings without pushing too hard... that's the best thing you can do for him.
2006-12-19 02:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by just nate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it means he finds you challenging, and not in a good way. He may feel that your love is conditional, or that you are too critical or judgmental of him. It sounds like you need to give him more love and reassurance, and soon.
2006-12-19 02:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a horrible man!!! he's trying to make you feel guilty for the way you are, he's blaming you for his behaviour!
Leave this man, your worth so much more than him, i wouldn't give this person the time of day.
2006-12-19 02:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by purple_hazey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree he's got a personality disorder! Time to move on and be with someone real.
2006-12-19 02:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like hes not happy with you.
practically sounds as if hes dumping you.
i think its time to get a new bf.
sorry if that sounds blunt.
i just dont understand why someone would write that unless they didnt wanna be with you
2006-12-19 03:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is being comfortable with a person at all times.
2006-12-19 02:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a bit of a ****, do you like being called babe? he's probably insecure possibly for very good reason.
2006-12-19 02:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋