Do you think people of all ages can learn to forgive others, or is this only an adult thing?
2006-12-19 01:53:30 · 8 answers · asked by In Honor of Moja 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes its much better to forgive than get revenge. I am only 17 and I don't take revenge. I forgive people constantly and I think it is much better to forgive and forget then live with the reminder that I hurt somebody simply because they hurt me.
2006-12-19 02:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by xI Crusader lx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FORGIVE - then 'let go'. Forgiveness does NOT MEAN condonation. But in forgiving, you rid yourself of resentments [however, justifiable] and anger which if held onto only eats away at you from the inside out and can have untold impact [negative] on your life [emotionally, mentally and healthwise]
Revenge is never 'sweet' and many who have taken revenge can tell you that once taken, unfortunately they feel no better, no more 'released' than before.
Yes, I have forgiven someone for a really bad thing and although I severed all ties with this person, I no longer am plagued with thoughts of what he did.
Yes, ANYONE can learn to forgive..............and in fact, children are usually better at the art of forgiveness. Children who are encouraged to forgive [but also encouraged to STAND for what they believe] grow up to be more responsible and stable adults also.
2006-12-19 10:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's pointless to try and get revenge or to hold a grudge. You really hurt yourself by doing this. the more you stay angry at someone, the more it consumes you.
I think it gets easier with practice, so yes, I think it is a sign of maturity when you are able to forgive (which is independent of age).
I have forgiven everyone who I had a problem with, to the best of my knowledge. I can't honestly say I am upset with anyone or holding any kind of grudge. There are times when I will get upset over something that happened and ask myself why it couldn't have gone differently, but I will tell myself it is over and we all did what we could, given the circumstances.
I think some of it comes from just being able to see things from another's point of view. Then it is easier to understand why someone did something that ended up hurting you. that makes it easier to forgive and move on.
Bad feelings come back, but as long as you remember to keep the past in the past, they will fade away again.
2006-12-19 10:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by kristin c 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its always better to forgive. Not only will you feel better for it but it enables you to move on with your life. And just maybe the person you forgive will later think twice before doing something to someone else.
The worst thing I forgave was when I found out that my husband married me without getting a divorce from his 1st wife. Then after our annulment he remarried a woman who was 2 mos pregnant. I couldn't forgive him right away but I didn't seek revenge. After about a year, I forgave him in my heart. This was in 1968 & he is still married to her.
2006-12-19 10:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Judith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children forgive more than anyone. Ten seconds after a fight with a sibling, it's forgotten. I have four and they never remember your sins. They think your wonderful for a short time.
It is always more productive to forgive, revenge is all consuming and destroys all.
2006-12-19 11:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by eg_ansel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to forgive makes you a better man,to get revenge makes you the same with the one who hurt you!
2006-12-19 10:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by remali 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Life has a funny way of working out without is needing to resort to revenge. Best to just sit back and when the person gets what they deserve smile to yourself warmly.
2006-12-19 09:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by einochi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
almost always, i forgive and it is a good feeling. i can sleep well without hang-ups
2006-12-19 10:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋