This is just something I"m curious about b/c I've noticed it here and well just about everywhere else.
If someone gets involved with a married man. All the blame goes to her, she is called names and everything. What about the man? The woman obviously didn't hold a gun to his head and make him cheat.
Just curisious as to why people are so quick to blame her and call her names instead of saying leave the cheating sob?
2006-12-19 01:51:06 · 22 answers · asked by his wife 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with you. I am a man too and to me, first to blame is the man who is cheating. In the first place he is the one who knows that he is very well married, right????!
2006-12-19 01:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by alandicho 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people will do that. I believe both are at fault. As for the one being cheated on...they should blame their boyfriend/husband because that is who they had the commitment with. I guess it gets people angry when a woman (could be a man also) doesn't have the respect for the relationship of another. She didn't make him cheat but was certainly a willing partner. I think both are completely at fault--you can't place all the blame on the guy either.
2006-12-19 10:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also got involved with a Married man, I knew he was married and I wanted it that way UNTIL I fell in Love with the man, which made it all different. I never once ask him to leave his ex-wife. Notice I said Ex-wife. We've been seeing each other for over 2 years now and this will be our FIRST real Christmas together. I'm meeting his daughter and her family for the first time and one of his brothers and his family. Should be interesting since I AM the other woman but I know I'm number one or he would still be with her. ( His choice ) We're both in our fifties . Relate? Merry Christmas !
2006-12-19 10:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by CryBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends what side of the fence you sit. Me and my fiancé have both been married before and were the cited as the reasons for each other's divorce. I think if you have been the one who cheated then you are less liked to react in a way which supports the person being cheated on as there is no smoke without fire. There had to be a breakdown somewhere in the marriage to want to go looking for something else.
Me and my fiancé were each others support at a really bad time we were both going through. His wife was taking all his money off him and leaving him broke even though he was the breadwinner. She used the kids they had against him there had been no sexual contact for years between them and they weren't even 30. He stayed for this kids sakes.
I was in an abusive relationship with my alcoholic ex hubby and he used to beat me regularly.
Me and my fiancé used to just talk to each other about what was going on until we realised we had feelings for each other. We weren't looking to start anything. It just happened.
We were called all the names under the sun but until people know all the facts then how can they pass judgement?
2006-12-19 10:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the husbands gets blamed as well, really the only time another women should get blamed is if she knew he was married then they both are to blame. I think it is just a jealous thing just knowing your husband was with someone else when he should have been at home with the wife
2006-12-19 09:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thing would be that although he is a married mana and the woman knew he was a married man she still stepped over that line. Yes both are at fault but her being a woman should know how the wife would feel and should have backed off. Men are men, if they have it put in their face they are going to eat, the women should know it's not right.
2006-12-19 10:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like they are both to blame, especially the one that is married. Some reason women get all of the blame. The men are considered studs.That is so not fair. Women seem to always get the short end of the stick.
2006-12-19 10:04:11 · answer #7 · answered by miss lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although both are to blame you do not see the married man posting here so they are quick to call the poster names
2006-12-19 09:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I blame the man. He went out and cheated. But then, the woman made herself available. If a woman knows a man is married but sleeping around, she shouldn't take advantage. She should run straight to the wife. So it is both of their faults.
2006-12-19 09:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I got involved with a married man (Unknown to me at the time). He was so sweet and loveable, showered me with gifts.
One day i found out - and i told him one or the other - I wasn't happy as i was hooked by then.
Never once was i called a homewrecker or anything like that apart from the wife and her friends.
They split up and we aere getting married in March
Yippee :)
2006-12-19 09:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by Jen (G cup UK) 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋