please help me i am so helpless if i shout at my dad the direct effect is seen on mom help my mom is quiet b'cause of me thinking my life will be ruined what should i do?
2006-12-19 01:47:23 · 9 answers · asked by aakriti 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This question is a little jumbled, but I would imagine you're pretty frightened. I wish I knew your age, it would be a determining factor in helping you. I would say talk to your dad when it would hit him the hardest, when he isn't expecting it. Don't wait for him to get angry, don't wait for him to be irrational, don;t wait for him to apathize his emotions. Talk to him while you're in the car. Talk to him while he is eating. Talk to him before it is too late. Talk to your mom as well. Relay your feelings, and come up with a plan to help. Talk to other people in your community, or people you can trust.
2006-12-19 01:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by Davy Kid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I would suggest speaking with an adult in your school about the situation. They will be able to contact the proper authorities to help you.
In addition, there are many groups out there dedicated to ending domestic abuse. Here is one website that may help you http://www.womenslaw.org. Also, this website has a lot of information http://www.ncadv.org/. It is hard to be the child in a situation like the one you describe and I am sure you feel helpless/hopeless but that is not the case, there are lots of people out there who are willing to help you if you ask.
You can also call the The National Domestic Violence Hotline:
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
Their policy is that "help is available to callers 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Hotline advocates are available for victims and anyone calling on their behalf to provide crisis intervention, safety planning, information and referrals to agencies in all 50 states, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands. Assistance is available in English and Spanish with access to more than 140 languages through interpreter services."
2006-12-19 02:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by starfish1871 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not attempt to resolve this within the home - i.e., speaking with your father.
1st...if your mother is the only one being abused; speak first to her and encourage her to seek help. Before doing that you may want to speak to another adult close to the family who could perhaps give you information regarding options for your mom.
2nd..ASSURE your mom that her understandably protective ways [of you] do not actually protect you and that is OK for her to seek help which would be healing for BOTH of you.
Abuse is NEVER OK...whether it be mental, emotional and/or physical. There is a saying "We teach people how to treat us"...in saying that I in no way am placing blame on your mother...but what I am saying is that when we, as humans, do not 'stand' up to those who would seek to harm us or demean us, we send a silent message to the abuser that it is OK to continue or even escalate that behavior.
LOVE is not shown by abuse. Your father also needs help but realize that you cannot fix this situation alone. A decision must be made to seek help by the adults involved [or the authorities,depending on your age, and the level of abuse your Mother is experiencing]
Abuse of this type is best handled by professionals.
2006-12-19 01:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom is the only one that is in trouble from your dad's abuse you should tell her to ask for a guidance counselor or a divorce. There is nothing I can do sorry. I know people who are like this maybe your mom will just leave...
2006-12-19 09:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you just want to protect you mom, but it is really up to her to make that next step and leave or just even take up for self. My dad was the same way and i wanted to do the same but after a while my mom just left and they have been seperated for about six years. I hope everything goes okay. Best of Luck -Journalism Geek
2006-12-19 03:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by Journalism Geek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I pay high taxes so that people like you have someone to help with this kind of problem. Go to your school concealer or even a teacher and talk about this. They will know exactly what to do to make this stop.
2006-12-19 02:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother's mother who is your grandmother. Or your mother's brother who is your uncle or your mother's father who is your grandfather. If they are not available tell any grown up who you think is kind. Tell a pastor, your mother needs help. I know there has been someone who showed compassion (love) toward you or your mother and whoever that person is, they are the one to tell. No one should live with abuse.
2006-12-19 01:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look for a "help group" in your community which can help. you and your mom cant go on living like that.
2006-12-19 01:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order a set of testicles n a baseball bat
2006-12-19 01:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by whitenight639 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋