Have a problem with how i dress?and have the nerve to say nasty remarks about it too there children?This has gotten down to my son who is know embarrassed to be seen with me at school!I am really pissed off!!I am not and old mom at 35 and i like to dress fashionably and have a good body i like to show off not too overly for most part.My two daughters think its cool and hubby loves it .I dont wear anything too over the top for the most part mabe the milf t-shirt on tank once in a while?My son even asked that i not come school to help out with the other moms ? or pick him up from school?
2006-12-19 01:46:36 · 16 answers · asked by Kelly V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a good mom and take care of my three kids.I go to church and help out with the community activities just like they do so what gives them the right too bad mouth me?
2006-12-19 01:51:01 · update #1
I work hard to keep my body in shape getting up earlier than my kids to go run three miles and then do crunches.So i think if i want to wear clothing that shows off my body a little i deserve too.Its not like i dress like a hooker!
2006-12-19 02:02:16 · update #2
You might need to tone it down a little. Might. But it seems like other women are just hating on you. If anything, do it for your son.
2006-12-19 01:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What 'kind' of church do you attend, that doesnt show you how wearing a MILF shirt is wrong? Does your church promote this adultery?
Grab hold of reality....there is NOTHING wrong with wanting to look and feel good about yourself. BUT....in your own words, you say you are married. Why dress as tho; you were on the market or single again? The bottomline is this: if your child is getting crap from others...THAT ALONE should be your motivation to at the very least dress more appropriately while taking your children to school.
Who are you most concerned about?
Your OWN feelings
...>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>OR YOUR CHILD?
THINK IT OVER.
2006-12-19 10:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by º§€V€Nº 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kelly, I am a little older than you and have raised four daughters, and my wife has been a teachers aid for 16 years. Please stop a moment and try to look at things from a different angle. Ok, from what you have said, you are a good looking woman and you know it, and you don't need to prove it to anyone do you? Sure it is fun to be noticed and all that and you are human. Ok, now, look at the children at school. Whether you realize it or not, they are constatly bombared with sexually oriented things all the time. Kelly, some kindergarden children all ready have problelms with playing with themselves, and older children masturbate right in the classroom. Now your children do not see you as a sex object, you are their security, their warmth, their peace of mind, you are all they have dear!! When you dress provocative and take them to school, they feel the sexual overtones that come your way, and they feel threatened by it, they feel uneasy, they feel like you are putting your sexuality ahead of them, and my sweet lady you are. I beg you, please consider what I am saying Kelly, I am a little older than you and I have lived a very active life and I know what I am talking about!! Your children are the most precious thing that you have, and everything that you do affects them. If you want to talk further please feel free to do so. Gerald
2006-12-19 10:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are jealous. . . . . But will you care more about standing your ground rather that realize it's making your son uncomfortable. It could be alot more that what other ppl are saying, it could be starting to catagorize you with innapropriateness. That's not an example I would want to continue with my children. Although I'd kill 4 a body good enough to show off again. At least you know you still got it even when it's under wraps, just cover it up a little bit more for the sake of his feelings twards it at this time.
2006-12-19 09:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by North of Heaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 35 and shopping at stores that are filled with teens and tweens you might consider dressing a little bit more your age group.
I doubt that it is jealousy, My sister is about your age still thinks she can wear what her 15 yr old daughter can. She can't it looks absurd. Even with her "fit" body.
Your hubby thinks you are still hot so why are trying to make everyone else think it? If its gotten to the point that your son is uncomfortable when his peers are about then you might consider rethinking a few things.
2006-12-19 10:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by Reisnoh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that it is the other Moms?
I remember I went through a period with my three children, where they really did not want me to go to parent teachers meetings, or to walk with them at the mall, sit with them at the movies.
Now they are grown up, you would be surprised at how much smarter I seem to have become in their eyes, how I am asked for advice, on family, children. cheer up this is only a phase, all children go through. You will laugh about it some day I promise.
2006-12-19 10:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anne2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really look good, is just jealousy from this other ladies, if you have a nice body, is obvious the other kids fathers are going to notice it, you can be fashionable and in stile just don't over do it yo much the you end it up looking like a ho-re instead of a hot mom.
2006-12-19 09:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. The girls here at work call me a "hootchie mama" just because I try to dress nice and they don't care what they look like. Not sure if they are jealous or not. Don't care. My only suggestion would be for you would be to try to tone it down considerably when you are at the school. It's a shame women are so mean when they see a beautiful woman who dresses nice and cares about herself. Good Luck!
2006-12-19 09:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For one, women are very jealous of other women, especially when you look real hot for your age. A lot of women hate to see confident women who look good and feel good about themselves. As long as you're not trying to look like you're 16, and your husband is okay with it, do what youre doing and dont bother getting pissed off about it. As for your son, give him the space that he needs, but he needs to get that talk about not letting other people define who he is and what he does.
2006-12-19 09:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your son is upset not because his friends mom said something, but the friend probably said you're hot. This would get any son disturbed. Keep doing what makes you happy. And when the other moms whisper thier dirt to one another enjoy the silent thought that THEIR HUSBANDS, are dreaming of you and not them. They attack you because of their own insecurity and jealousy.
Moer power to you, you milf....
2006-12-19 09:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋