I am 36 years old and have 4 kids.My first husband is the father of two of my children.We met when i was 22 and just got a job ,he was indierectly my boss ,and was 13 yrs older than me.I had a child from a previous relationship who was 5 yrs old but some how we got married a year later , were married for 7.5 yrs, and had twins together.The reason for the divorce mainly to to with the age difference , the fights it caused, and the fact that i felt i was too young to be married.I dated around after that and eventually ran into my eldest daughter biological father , married him it lasted 3 yrs, and had my youngest child.After that failed marriage i started dating men in their mid to late 20's which was fun for a while but i got over it.The only man other than my father too see me through all of this and still be my best friend was my first hubby.No matter what i did he still was there for me.We have started dating again but i wonder if i have too much baggage?
2006-12-19 01:07:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really love him and i want to avoid another divorce ?So how can i be 100% sure ?
2006-12-19 01:11:18 · update #1
I do feel ready to settle down and relax.
2006-12-19 01:12:50 · update #2
It sounds like you have a lot you need to deal with before deciding to get married again. Learn to love YOU first and see WHO YOU really are and what you want out of life. It's hard to live with yourself alone. Good luck.
2006-12-19 01:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by MiMi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you have too much baggage, and he is trying to father you and guide you, I would think at 36 yo you could settle down ,but I thought that about my second wife also and she never did,
I would continue to date and be part of each others lives but I would not get married again
2006-12-19 01:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have baggage, but the guy you are dating, knows all about it. It's not like he is going into this relationship blind. You two lasted almost 8 years, the first go round, something had to have been good for it to have lasted that long. Now that you are older and have lived life some, maybe you two are more better suited for eachother now. Go for it.
2006-12-19 01:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the wonderful answer could be different strokes for various individuals. After 11 yrs I have been given divorced - swore off women individuals - then after approximately 9 months found out that i needed/mandatory a woman in my existence. i'm now luckily remarried for 3 yrs. I somewhat think of it could flow the two way - do it returned or no longer (stay mutually) that way if it does not artwork - all the B.S. of who gets what,alimony or baby help or those gruesome words "0.5 of each thing" has no result.
2016-12-11 12:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by fearson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U dont need to get married all u need are male friends who you just hang out with. U dont know what the meaning of marriage is or what it takes to have a successful marriage. So keep your legs closed and look to God as your new best friend!
2006-12-20 14:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems as if your first hubby is your true soul mate that's why destiny is putting you all together. no one else can love your children more then their own biological father as you are just not a women but also a mother so you need to take the decision which is beneficial for both you and your children. therefore i suggest you to be with your first hubby only.
2006-12-19 01:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of the baggage and go with the first husband, he seems to love you very much.
2006-12-19 01:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you do not have too much baggage. perhaps the 1st time you married you just were not ready for it and now God is giving you a second chance
2006-12-19 01:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dame girl get a grip. it's not the answer to married again because you been loney 36 yrs old your in your prime right now enjoy it
2006-12-19 01:15:32 · answer #9 · answered by bigpopi@verizon.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you then he will take you with the baggage :)doesnt matter how much baggage also ;)
i wish you good luck and all the best in future with alot of happyness
2006-12-19 01:12:33 · answer #10 · answered by sweety4live2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋