For young ladies...what can I do to be a great mother-in-law?

Question

My son is very serious about a young lady I adore. I want our relationship to be as close as possible. So...what do you want from a mother-in-law?

Answer 1

It sounds as if you're very kind and considerate already, that's a great start. (Wish mine was). Don't be bossy or controlling. When it comes to family events, check with everyone about their ideas and plans instead of deciding something and informing everyone of what they are to do. Be attentive when needed, be silent when listening and try to be understanding. Respect the decisions she's made even if you feel they're wrong and let her work out the kinks on her own unless she comes to you for advice.

Just by asking this question, it shows that you care and I can already tell you that I wish you were my MIL instead of the one I've got.

Answer 2

I wish I had a mother in law who actually cared about me and not just my husband. My mother in law is very jealous of me and my husbands relationship not only is she threatned by me but my mother too. She doesn't like the fact that my husband is close with my family. It has made things very tense when planning for the holidays. She is so bitter nothing would make her happy unless she had us at her house christmas eve and christmas. I decided this was one battle that I was going to fight because it meant alot to me to be with both familys for christmas and I won but now things are uncomfortable and I feel we will never be close. I hope you and your daughter in law become friends. If your son really likes this girl you should make every effort to include her. Invite her to go shopping with you or go to lunch give her a fair chance and get to know her.

Answer 3

Well how was your mother-in-law to you? If she was good then do what she did. What I would like mine to do, is to not medal. Our life is our life and she needs to live her own. Be there to be supportive, give advice, but not overstep your bounds. If she tells you something in convidence, keep it that way, no matter how mad it makes you. If you tell once, then her trust in you in gone and that will make the relationship strained, I know mine did it to me. The best advice I can give(which is what I hope mine would do) is let them live their lifes, no matter how much you hate it. Bite your toungue and just watch otherwise she will end up despising you. Good luck!!