How do you talk to a girl about her weight?

Question

I know this girl who I like. She used to be thin as a rail, (model)and everyone else in her family is pretty thin. They are not in an unhealthy way, they just have high metabolisms. She isn't real big, but it is noticable. How should I talk to her about it? I am really turned off by girls that are not in good physical shape, but I like her. I think she knows it, and I think she is not happy about it, but I don't know. She used to be so incredibly beautiful. What should I do?

Answer 1

talk to her and make things open between the two of you

Answer 2

Well first of all if you really like her a little weight shouldn't bother you. Now if she was really letting herself go then I guess I could understand. But from what it sounds she's probably about the same size as an average woman. Have you thought that maybe youmight just be being too picky? :) Personally i think if your going to like her for who she is then like her for who she is...not what she looks like naked! lol Besides if you say she was so beautiful b4...why isn't she now? Just because she gained a little weight? However if your really worried about it...DONT TELL HER YOU FEEL THAT WAY!! All your going to do is make her feel insecure and most likely push her away. Especially if you tell her it turns you off....NO girl EVER wants to hear that!! Instead start taking her to do things that cause for a bit more exercise. Bike riding, hiking, skating, ect. But do it because you want to spend time with her and not just to help her loose weight!! Besides, women are better with a little meat on their bones anyway. That skinny as a rail stuff is just WAY to thin for my taste. Personally I prefer to have a little something to grab on to. Good luck, I hope you have a Merry Christmas!

Answer 3

Welcome to the real world there, kiddo. Not everyone is going to stay either thin or heavy. People change, and here's your first big real-world challenge: SEE THE PERSON FOR WHO THEY ARE ON THE INSIDE. If you're "turned off" by her appearance, then all you CARE about is her physical looks, not what that shell holds.

I hate to tell you this, but if you date people solely for their looks, eventually there will be no one left to date, because EVERYONE gets old and wrinkly or fat or unhealthy in one way or another. You'll end up being sad and alone.

Appreciate a person for WHO they are, not WHAT they are. EVERYONE - including you - will be happier this way.

Answer 4

Just be her friend, don't push anything else. Don't mention her weight. Over time, you will come to see what emotional strees may be causing her to put on weight. Or you could try to do things with her that are active. Like going on hikes, riding bikes, etc. Suggest healthy places and things to eat when you are together, but don't talk to her about her weight. Most likely, she is already bothered by it and your talking about it will only upset her more.

If you truly care about her as a person then her weight won't matter, so don't look to be turned on by her, just be her friend, and things will move on naturally and slowly from there, in a healthy way.

Answer 5

You should really like her for what she is. If you are concern about her health (rather than just apperance) because you really care for her, here is what you can do if you are afraid to tell her because you might hurt her feeling,

You can be active with her. Invite her to play sports with you. Ask her if she wants to be your gym buddy or running buddy. It might help you to get to know her during the process.

Join the YMCA with her or a local league. Find out what type of activities that she enjoys doing. Maybe dancing? What ever it is... And just join her.

I hope that helps

Answer 6

If you like the girl, and you want to address her weight before you address her feelings for her I will have to wish you good luck. I find it very hard to understand why you are so bothered about her weight, as she is "not really big". Stop comparing her to her other family members and take her who she is, damnit! There are too many good looking, normal weighing girls that have a complex because of people wanting them to look like a skeleton, just because that is trendy nowadays.

Answer 7

I hope you're very very young and just haven't learned yet how to be completely human. And I hope that life experiences will gently guide you toward empathy and away from judgemental thoughts such as these. And I hope your friend is able to find a better class of companions.

Best of luck growing up.

Answer 8

To be honest there is no kinder way to tell a girl about thier weight, you have to accept her the way she is. If she doesnt like her weight then she will lose it in her own time,
My advise to you is don't say anything she will grow on you in time and then you will not notice those sort of things....

Answer 9

Accept her the way she is. Turn the question around if someone said you heavier would it feell good to you. I assure you you has a scale in her house. If not buy her one. Without saying anything to hurt her.

Answer 10

why? Is she not as beautiful now because shes piled on a few pounds?
Do you not like her for who she is? or is it merely coz you want a trophy hanging off your arm?

i would NOT say ANYTHING!!
This could damage her self esteem and if she isnt happy, let her be the one to decide it .. not u

Answer 11

Leave her alone you arrogant bastard. Go find another skinny rake who would put up with your pathetic, over sized ego. Oh and by the way, your personality stinks like a turd. You are one motherf*cking ugly dude.