How can I tell my wife this ? Is it a wise i dea ? If not why?
2006-12-19 00:22:35 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
It is traditional to give 10% of your salary to your church - I'm sorry to say this but it would probably be better to do this every week at collection instead so you don't notice it so much! This tradition exists because before people paid national taxes it was the church that took care of the community and provided community services (like nuns caring for the sick and elderly). Now that we do pay national taxes for these services, 10% on top might be a bit steep, but then we do live in more luxury than ever and I give what I can afford to church and other charities, but only so much as to go without things I can do without - I put food, bills, and some personal luxuries first. Only you can decide how much to give and what you can afford to go without - but it needs to be your wife's decision too.
I've no idea how you can begin to discuss it with your wife - no one does except you and her - every relationship is different. Maybe you should start off with a smaller sum, eg. 'I don't want any Christmas presents this year so that we can donate the money that you would've spent on me to the church.' Or you could explain to her why it is so important to you that you do this - if you've thought it through properly and still think it's a good idea, then I expect she will too. But remember to listen to what she's got to say too, if she doesn't want to then listen and discuss her reasons and let her change your mind if she's making sense - relationships are about working through problems and compromising if you disagree.
I hope that helps - good luck xxx
2006-12-19 00:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by Cathy :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it in the first place. Your wife will have presumably budgeted for the next month, based on the regular income of the house. If you can cover your mortgage, bills, food and entertainment on the £600 that's left - brilliant. Personally, I'd rather save up the money in a savings account, and then give it to the church, if that's what I felt was the right thing to do. That way, you won't make too great a dent in your monthly outgoings, you won't suffer financially for the rest of the month, and you won't feel the wrath of your wife. It also makes it less of an impulse donation, and will give you the chance to really think what you're doing.
2006-12-19 08:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by bouncingtigger13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's put this into perspective - I earn 800 pounds a month, working 40hrs as a waitress/supervisor, working extremely hard and can only just afford the rent and bills!
So what are you worrying about again?
Not to mention, If you earn it, you spend it (your wife will have to agree to that!) - And what better way then on a good cause. But beware, what do you think the church will spend it on? Are you sure they are the best people to give it to?
Xx
2006-12-19 08:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by Honeymist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the long run it will be worth it. Your wife should not be mad if it is your money. As long as you get the bills paid then every body should be happy. I wish you the best of luck. You are doing the right thing by giving money to your church. Make sure that your preacher gets a fair share. They dont make a lot of money. That you for being so caring.
2006-12-19 08:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Hillary N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give it to the church, Give it to me as I am quite religious and I will take your wife away for a weekend to a romantic destination. When we get back she will be so tired she wont care what you do with your money. Being serious, Stop living in a dream world and treat your wife to something special this christmas as the church will always be there. If you dont you might find you only have the church left mate!
2006-12-19 08:34:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since you are married I would say that you should discuss any major spending with your wife beforehand.
How about: "Darling, I have been thinking and I would like to donate alot of money to our church"
If she does not like the idea, then you should suggest that this will not affect her lifestyle and that it is you who will be giving up luxuries in order to make this donation.
Also give her chance to change your mind, there may be good reasons why you can not afford to give away that much. Giving less money is another possible compromise.
Good luck
2006-12-19 08:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are an incredibly generous person! God states in the Bible to tithe 10% of your income. Did you know the word tithe actually means 10%? Anyway I think that is wonderful you can afford to do that.
2006-12-19 08:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Kristine M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its a good idea. Church is a important thing. I think you should talk it over with your wife first.if she doesn't understand try your best. Just make sure to make a good choice
2006-12-19 08:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shut up fool. Give it to a worthwhile cause if your giving it away or help out your loved ones if they need it. The church gets plenty of money.
2006-12-19 08:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To do it right you give 10 per cent of your income
2006-12-19 08:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋