Do you ever get to like Christmas properly again? My dad died on December 20th 1982 and it has made Christmas a difficult time ever since.
2006-12-19 00:20:09 · 21 answers · asked by Sir Sidney Snot 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
My mother died on December 20, 1988....her birthday was Dec. 23; that year she would have turned 60 yrs. old. It's never easy to lose a parent, especially around the holidays. The first few years are always the most difficult...I have found that the best way to get thru this rough time is to honor her memory by celebrating the way she would have wanted me to celebrate. My father was a real big fan of Christmas & we lost him 3 years prior to my mother, only in September. You just remember them in your own special way and celebrate with those who are still living. Isn't that what your Dad would want you to do?
Blessings to you and your family...it's never easy to be without those we love dearly. Have a wonderful Christmas.
2006-12-19 00:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes. In "92 I lost 3, yes 3, of the most important people in my life; my uncle that I was named after on March 31st, my mother on June 6, and the last one was my father only 2 days after his 70th birthday on Nov.8. It took me about 3 or 4 years to be able to even watch christmas movies and shows again. I celebrated the holiday with my cousins on Christmas Eve but I didn't celebrate the holiday alone until '98. I now usually celebrate the holiday alone every year, and I have fun because I have good friends that I exchange gifts with and can get together with.
2006-12-19 06:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in order to start enjoying Christmas again you need to stop connecting it so much to your dad's death. You need to stop thinking of Christmas as a time of sorrow and try to connect it with something happy instead.
Maybe it would also help if you tried to focus on your dad's life rather than his death. You know, think of the positive stuff rather than the negative. Maybe you could celebrate his life and use Christmas as an opportunity to think back upon nice memories of him rather than feel bad because he died at this time of the year.
I hope that helps.
2006-12-19 00:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by undir 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh i don't know. I guess their really isn't a way to see it the right way again. I mean, this is your dad we're talking about. You will always miss him for the rest of your life. I once asked my mom, how long does it take to get over the death of your parents. and she said "you never get over it". my moms mom died 20 years ago. My dad is in the hospital right now. He has Multiple Myeloma. Its bone marrow cancer. I had to call 911 because daddy wasnt breathing good at all. anyway I don't think their is a way. I guess all you can do is, Sit and think of the happy silly times with him. Think of all the times you shared, all the fun, all the goofs, and maybe in time things will feel differently for you.
Good Luck and Merry Christmas to you and your family
=)
2006-12-19 00:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by Crissy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me, my Dad died close to Christmas and he did love Christmas alot. Now I get through it by dedicating my gift giving to him. When I'm out shopping I think "What would Dad have bought for _______?" Then when they are opening their gifts I feel like he is there.
2006-12-19 00:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by MeanKitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope things go back to normal. I lost both of my grandparents this year and i cannot get into the Christmas spirit no matter how hard i try. It just isn't Christmas without my grandparents. I can't wait for it all to be over with.
2006-12-19 00:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ purrlvr ♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Loved ones are missed year round but they seem to be especially missed during the holidays. This is my first year without my Mother, she passed away Dec. 28, 2005. It is still hard not to pick up the phone and call her for advice or a recipe, but I know that she is hear with me in my heart. My Mother would want me to make the best of the holidays, as she did. Try and remember what your father would want for you during the holidays. He may not be close at hand but he is still close at heart.
2006-12-19 00:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by tinar92 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are of the Christian faith, you should realize that Christmas is our Lord's birthday. I take great joy in realizing that the one's I loved here on earth are attending Jesus Birthday in person now. I always try to remember something special that person loved about Christmas, I pass these memories on to my nieces and nephews now, keeping those traditions alive. Instead of missing the person, we are able to remember that special something they always brought to the celebration.
2006-12-19 00:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Trish S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am so sorry that you lost your Father, my Mother died on the 21st of December and it was a very difficult time, but I really do believe that she is with the God who loves her and this brings me comfort.
2006-12-19 00:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by Sentinel 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well.. that is very hard to answer. It affects different people differently. It creates a very bad memory of Christmas particularly for that year and then in subsequent years, it (the bad memories) will subside somewhat particularly as you get involved (more involved) with your children's meaning of Christmas
2006-12-19 00:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋