When my boyfriend said he visited a prostitute just "to do it"....because he wanted to losehis virginity...i was shocked at how marrow minded men are. Is it true that your whole self esteem and imagepeople have of u just rest on if youre a virgin or not? isnt it better to lose it to a lover rather than a prostitute?
2006-12-18 23:52:17 · 12 answers · asked by Melin 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes in fact, when I turned 16, my father took me to his favorite brothel where he knew the women were clean, no STD's, AIDS and knew how to teach a young lad like me. I could have waited to learn on my own in college, but I'm glad I learned some a variety of positions from an experienced woman who was a true professional.
A most educating experience.
2006-12-18 23:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by MIKE D 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
This is a problem for men or for women or for anyone. It is a case of having low confidence a lot of the time because you start to think you will never find the right person. It isn't feeling deprived it is everybody's urge to be loved by somebody and the later it is the harder it becomes. I can't find somebody and I'm still a virgin but I have had the opportunity in the past but I'm waiting for the right girl you know but I feel down a lot of the time and just think to go with anybody but then think when I meet the right girl I will be the happiest guy alive. So to answer it is hard to be alone and be a virgin for so long but if you wait for the right person it is a lot more rewarding than just going with a prostitute who doesn't love you.
2006-12-19 08:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by kewlguitarist 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sadly society has made it NOT okay for a man to wait for that special someone, but they STILL expect a girl to wait. Even now in the year 2006 almost 2007, society sees it more okay for men to sleep around before they are married than a woman.
We have raised our sons to be MANLY and in charge, but we have forgotten to teach them is to respect and care for the women in their lives. To care for them as a person NOT as possesion. For way to long a woman always belong to some man. First her father then her husband. Today we still fight to be "equal" but at teh same time there are those women that want equal pay and what not but they are forcing men to become "wimps".
Look at all the special training men have to go threw for fear of some "woman" crying sexual harrasment.
We all need to change for the better of our world. Men to learn to be gentle yet strong and women need to learn to be strong while still being a lady.
And yes I am a woman who was in the NAVY as a cop. I have seen quiet a bit. I have seen men too hard and some even too soft. I have seen women that were the same. We need to find that middle ground were we are both. You need to know when to be hard and when to soft.
And again I think there is NOTHING wrong with a man waiting until he has found the right one.
2006-12-19 14:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mistress_vampire99 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't know. I didn't wait that long. I was hoping to lose it to my lady school teachers throughout my entire juniour academic career. But, I got the next best scenario. I got myself a sligthtly older University woman. I agree with not going to a prostitute. That's dangerous and dirty. But, women teachers should flirt a little with their male students. Every guy is hot for at least on of their teachers.
2006-12-19 08:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by sandwreckoner 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My younger brother didn't lose his virginity until he was 26. He is a great looking guy and dated alot of girls. He told me it wasn't that he couldn't have sex with any of them but that he chose not to because they would throw it out there to him too easily. His thoughts on that was, since they got loose with him so quickly, they probably did it with all the guys they dated.
Once he finally did do it...I asked him how was it...
he answered, "Well, it's better than watching T.V.".
2006-12-19 08:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by ▒♥▒♥▒♥▒♥▒™ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Virginity in men in twenties is neither an insult nor deprivation. Your friend is curious.
2006-12-19 08:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by J.SWAMY I ఇ జ స్వామి 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats an american thing from watching too many of those idiotic teen "coming of age" nerd movies. The rest of the world is not like that.
2006-12-19 07:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by ByeBuyamericanPi 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
it really is a shame that men are made to believe they aren't men until they've had sex...don't get me wrong sex is a wonderful thing but ppl place way too much importance on it...especially men and i can't imagine going to a prostitute...oh god, nasty...can you imagine all the diseases etc. ....much better to lose it to a lover....
2006-12-19 08:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by ?! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you its better to wait. i have although that's partly due to my isolation (i live in the middle of no where) but still i think its better to wait.
There does seem to be a hole ego thing surrounding it like there are most things in our society its just the way we are.
2006-12-19 08:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by Wonx2150 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably because they don't have any experience & are nervous because most females do have experience nowadays. And they're afraid of being compared to men who have experience too.
2006-12-19 10:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋