Me and my bestfriend were thinking about getting an apartment together. We'll both be 22 soon, and just want to be out on our own. I'm about to graduate from college soon, and she has a good steady job. We were so discouraged that we haven't talked about it in a while. Is it a good idea? We get along really well, and I think we'd be able to maintain our friendship. Although I do worry about it. his will her first time living outside the house, but I've lived on campus for two years.Is this a good idea?
2006-12-18 23:48:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I learned through experience that sharing a living space with a friend doesn't work. It doesn't matter how good your friendship is, something always happens to destroy it. It starts out small and before you know it, you and your friend are at each other's throats.
If there's any way you can afford to live on your own, my advice is for you to do it. You'll feel good about yourself and will be able to maintain your friendship.
If you do decide to go ahead with your plans to move in together, you and your friend should sit down and make absolutely certain that you agree on the rules and what is acceptable and what is not, (i.e. boyfriends sleeping over, how you'll divide chores, will you split food costs or not, etc.).
It's possible it could work out, but it has never in my situations. I lost my best friend of years while sharing a house with her. We haven't spoken a word since. Keep your friend and your sanity....get your own place.
2006-12-18 23:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by Maggie W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how long u've known each other. Me & my bff/sister have known each other for 8 months & we're talking about living 2getha but, we also live in the same group home r8 now.
4 most people though I'd say w8 @ least 5 years of being bffs.
2006-12-19 10:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by lakersfan_4life1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a pro/con list. Do you both pay your bills steadily and on time (this is MAJOR). Do you both like some of the same things. For instance, it'd be bad if one is a party girl and the other likes peace and quiet. If none of these things are an issue, move in. It could be really fun!
2006-12-19 08:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its a bad idea, i lived with a best friend for about a year, befoe that we got along just fine, when living together all we did is nit pick about everything, needless to say we are no longer friends
2006-12-19 08:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by katwoman65_99 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to be careful it's ot always a good idea to move in with your best friend.
2006-12-19 08:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by AJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you give it a try... it's your BESTfriend anyway... you wouldnt call her that for no reason at all....it means she's one of the chosen people being loyal to you... people have different personalities. make sure you communicate house rules well. just go and try.....there's nothing wrong with that....
2006-12-19 10:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by red_fi5e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think if money will be an issue,and also people become sometimes less friends when they stay together in the same house, trouble may come along (like why you left your socks there and ... you know). I'm about your age and i mooved from home while ago and i know what it's like. For the other person, if she never lived on her own before, she may not know to save money if necesary, also trouble may come along. But you can also go back home, it's not ireversable, i think you should do it
2006-12-19 07:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by alexu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
discuss and write down all expectations regardless how small and exchange what each expect from the arrangement.make clause for job loss,b/f's g/f's.parties,studytime,quiet time,utilities etc,write everything down and sign agreements before making the move.don't rely on friendship to make things work,write it all down and see if the differences you each bring are compatible.
2006-12-19 07:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would say go for it, but there will be problems. you might loose a best friend,
2006-12-19 08:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by zoey z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you never know until you've tried it.. if it did not work out well, you can always go on separate pad.
2006-12-19 08:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by labs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋