Is divorce more a cognitive than a moral failing?

Question

The meaning of marriage in Western culture refers to a life-long monogamous commitment. The decision to get married, therefore, entails that the individual denies his future self the possibility of re-evaluating its commitment.

If the individual is aware of the strenuous demands of marriage, and cannot live up to them, he ought not get married. However, if he chooses to get married, a later desire to get divorced is, in effect, invalidated by the meaning of the commitment which he made.

Thus, to get divorced demonstrates a cognitive failing - a failure to understand the meaning of marriage. Whether it is immoral, however, to break a promise which is fundamentally imprudent and irrational is less clear.

Answer 1

the idea of marraige being for life dates back to a time when the average life expectancy was 30ish, which made it a more realistic prospect. that said, my wedding vows are for life!

Answer 2

The aim of marriage is to legitimise procreation. The fundametal failing of marriage in modern society is the requirement of monogamy.

Experiments with animals have demonstrated that a male mouse will take approximately one hour post-copulation to be ready to copulate again.

However, if the first female is removed, and another female is put in its place, the male will be able to copulate immediately.

What does this show us? That one female is not enough for a male.

So, why is there a requirement for monogamy in modern society?

In biblical times, polygamy was common. The reason? War, pestilence and famine were common, so it made sense for a man to have many offspring as it was likely that many of them would die. A woman can only give birth every 9 months (and the likelihood of death in childbirth was much higher back then), so it made sense for the man to have many wives. Their moral responsibility was to only marry as many women as he could afford to support.

Nowadays, in western culture war is less common, as are pestilence and famine, so survival rates are much higher. A greater problem is overpopulation, exacerbated by economic refugeeism and migration, so monogamy has become the norm, and that is reflected in the morality of western society. The trouble is that polulation control used to be a consequence of monogamy, as most women used to lose their fertility after one or two children, but now with better maternity facilities available to even the poorest scum, and welfare benefits so that their scummy brats can be paid to do nothing by the hard work of others, the lower classes seem to have missed the point and produce litters of up to eight or more children.

The misapprehension is that somehow morality is absolute, yet the truth is that morality is an external phenomenon imposed by others to control the masses. It is up to the individual whether they want to abdicate their responsibility to make choices, or follow what society says they should do.

A more reasonable way forward would be for a man (or woman) to pay, say £20,000 to the government in order to marry any additional spouse. This money would be held in trust to offset any loss in taxes or benefits paid due to, say, maternity/paternity, childcare and so on. Likewise, any woman on state benefits would be (reversibly) sterilised after having one child. This would solve the problem of overpopulation and reduce the reliance on state benefits, and enable the woman to invest her time into bringing up a well adjusted child.

The morality of these measures is clear. Whether any government would have the moral fibre to implement them is debatable.

Answer 3

You take a new job, you think that you will like it , but you don't.
You move to a new area and find that it was a mistake.
You meet someone who turns out to be not what you believed.
No one can predict the future and things change, people change and marriages change.

If you don't like your job, get a new one
If you don't like where you live, move
If your new friend turns out to be an escaped paedophile, move on.
If your marriage isn't what you expected, the contract is null and void..

Human nature is imperfect, there is no reason to live in purgatoryif you make a mistake or if reasons outside your control mess things up, learn from your experience and go forth and try again.

Answer 4

Interesting theory.
Nobody 'wants' to get divorced....unfortunate circumstances lead you to it. In this day and age, women tend to have more of an opinion and expect not to be trated like dirt and if they feel they are being mistreated they will try to resolve it and if there is no commitment from the partner, the marriage falls to pieces.
Divorce is too easy in the UK though, they should make it a bit harder so it makes people think twice before divorcing.

Answer 5

you're making options depending on the practise you've on the time. you may look decrease back and picture you made a mistake, yet you do not have the posh of hindsight at the same time as making judgements. you attempt to get as a lot practise and pray about it or if you're not any further a praying individual, imagine about it earlier you're making a range. sturdy success.

Answer 6

if the government doesn't proclaim divorce policy then people might have to stay their vows forever. but mine is forever as my husband chose my country to get married without divorce. if we can't fix any problem in our marriage life then there's no reason at the beginning to commit our life if we are not strong enough to face those challenge. staying your vows forever is only up to both of you how willing you are to face those challenge. i do believe as long as we are still alive we have fulltime responsibilities that no one could run away from it.

Answer 7

No one gives a damn anymore. No one wants that much responsibility. It's meaningless. Just a fancy ceremony and putting a man at risk of losing everything he's got.

Answer 8

A cognative divorce leads to a failed moral.

Answer 9

marriage is abt compromises, care and espect.its success lies in bearing each other mistakes but no1 of us now is dat strong so dats y they run away frm dis realtion and wants 2 be free! when they can get wat they want widout any hardships and responsibilities then wats the point of getting married!

Answer 10

nah...too many flaws