My friend is engaged to a new recruit (logistics) in the British Army, he is 24, she is 30 with 2 small children. They got engaged after only 2 months and are hoping to be wed next summer. What sort of life can she expect as an army wife? Will they get a army house, will she have to move every couple of years? They have little money & IM wondering if they are engaged just to get an Army house and other perks. Very curious to know.
2006-12-18 21:58:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I served 11yrs in the Army, being married for half of it. They will be posted on average every 2-3yrs and this will have an effect on the career of the Army Wife moving so often. Having babies is the result of not having a career of their own. Married quarters are ok, with the rent being quite cheap....be prepared to have the quarter inspected for damage and cleaniness when they are posted... 'the March Out'. It can be a lonely life with the husband being away for 6months at a time. The back to back tours of Afghanistan and Iraq will have an effect on the relationship.
We were posted to Germany 2 months after we were married, 2 months after that the Unit went to Bosnia for 6 months, she was pregnant and her family along way away in N.Ireland. Don't get me wrong there will be happy times!!!!
2006-12-18 22:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by jamie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
social life can be great but sometimes the company is a bit rough.
You have to be broad minded, the opportunity to travel is good, schooling is provided for the kids.
there are family groups and all that for when he is away on exercises or postings.
you get around 6 weeks leave a year and you also get flights with the RAF for free.
Not a bad life if you don't mind being bossed about by the army. it is totally different to being a civilian wife.
2006-12-19 01:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by Boscombe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about the British Army, but I'm a US Army Soldier's Spouse and if they are in it for the money and the "perks" they'll never make it. The Army life is hard for the weak! They will spend a lot of time apart, the money isn't all that great, they'll move allot....
Personally, I love my life, my husband, my family and my country and am proud to be apart of the Army family...but I do it out of LOVE not because of the "perks"....
Not sure if that answered your question!
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2016-04-21 21:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by shaunda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will definately get a married quarter, but it can be a lonely life as the husband tends to be away a lot of the year. They may well move around quite a lot and u usually get relocation money when u do.
2006-12-18 22:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by eeore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will get an army house, she will have to move around with her hubby if she wants to or she can just stay where ever her house is....
It tends not to be every couple of years because you can just ask for extended stay on each posting........
2006-12-18 22:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they will get a married quarter but it sounds to me like the reasons for getting married in the first place may not put your friends on the most solid of foundation.
marry in haste, repent at your leisure
2006-12-18 22:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should be happy for your friend and not ask such question..let them live a happy life and i say stop being so curious :)
2006-12-18 22:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by sweety4live2000 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2006-12-18 22:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by chav69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋