Two childre are involved. However, I think I should save my money for my move. What do you think?
2006-12-18 21:19:59 · 13 answers · asked by Jane Smith 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you can make it being on vacation together, why are you leaving ??
2006-12-18 21:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first I would have to ask, does he know your leaving? Secondly, not trying to be selfish here or anything. Wouldnt you want your children to enjoy one last trip together as a family. Maybe give them one last thing to cherish about their childhood. I completely understand where your coming from. Wanting to save money and all. I think however, that you have already made up your mind, and in the end..you deserve to be happy as well. So you can either tell him before hand. See how it goes, you never know maybe he will still take the kids and go. Gl
2006-12-19 05:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Jane, planning a trip with someone you do not love anymore would be hard on both of you. If it involves a prepaid deal that cannot be cancelled, then go for it. Otherwise, make a clean break. It would be best for you and the children. Good Luck in whatever you decide.
2006-12-19 05:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by Dennis D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just cancelled our Christmas vacation that was paid for 10 months ago because my husband and I are divorcing. Not knowing the whole story, I would still have to agree wheather or not you are spending money, don't go. If you go on this one last vacation it will just open doors for one last everything and you will feel like you are walking thru a revolving door. Don't get me wrong, I'm not for divorce, but if its over its over. You will build new memories with your children. Yes you should always think of your children. You also have to think of yourself. You know the old saying, if moms not happy, nobody's happy.
2006-12-19 06:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by olivia m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dun think i'll go if i were u. it wont b fun anymore and the whole trip will b a heartache. Plus it's better for u to save up now. However, it's hard to decide since your children are involved. try to make them understand. All the best
2006-12-19 05:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by min 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spending time with your to-be-ex is not a good thing, huh? Don't be selfish to your children. Send them on the trip with their dad...and save the money that would have been spent on your enjoyment on your move.
I agree with Caitlin--if you are going to loose the money just go. Go for the kids. You can share kid time--if he is a dolt that spends all his time away from everyone...the kids will remember that too.
2006-12-19 05:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember kids come first, do not let them down! If they are really looking forward the trip. Then leave after because if you let kids down they will never never forgive you.
2006-12-19 05:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Margaret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~I've been there, done that. He paid for the trip, it was his vacation and two weeks of he!! for me. As soon as he went back to work, I grabbed my daughter and we left.
If you're spending your money on this vacation, I would suggest you save it, you'll need it.~
Good luck.
2006-12-19 05:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be the last chance to stay together, I'm sorry, I don't knoe the background ofcourse. If there's absolutely no chance of you staying together, how could you go?
2006-12-19 05:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by gbgnick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its already planned and he's going to lose money if you dont go and the kids are going, i'd just go. you don't want to ruin the vacation or your kids will remember that forever.
2006-12-19 05:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by Caitlin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I'd go as long as hubby financed it and spent money on me.
2006-12-19 07:42:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋