How do I get past hurt feelings?

Question

A couple nights ago my husband and I got into a arguement about him never spending time with the family, and he started telling me to wear bagger pants because my tighs are huge and would not drop everytime he walked passed me he made some comment. I don't consider myself big. I am 5,9 and weigh 149 pounds and since these hurtful words I find it hard to lay next to him or try to have a conversation with him because he always lashes out.

What do you think?

Answer 1

you can go to the marrige consellor for help or try talking to someone you are close to like friends..

Answer 2

I don't know if he is always this way, but it sounds like he was hurt by your argument. Sometimes people say stupid things when their feelings get hurt-but that's no excuse. Honey, you sound gorgeous to me.
You probably need to tell him that he hurt your feelings and let him know that comments about your body or yourself are not acceptable. Tell him that you appreciate that it was said during a moment of anger, but there are ways to get around hurtful things. When you have an argument in which he feels that he is getting out of control (comment-wise) suggest to him that you both walk away and talk about it when you've both calmed down. Sometimes that will work, sometimes it won't. But, explain to him that name calling and bashing is not a way to get the way that he's feeling out there. Instead, agree to disagree and talk about it when you've both calmed down.
If he continues on this mentally and emotionally abusive past, tell him you've got better places to be and let him on his way. You deserve better than his name calling. Im sorry that you're going through this. I hope that you know that you are a beautiful person.

Answer 3

I think u should leave ur not big @ all u sound thin possibly even skinny. If he can't appreciate u 4 u then drop him and move on there's so mayn guys ou there u can't let ur husband treat u like this. Hell ur actually being too nice (we share this prob) and he's lucky u didn't smack him like most girls would've done. Drop him move on cuz ur probally a beautiful and loving person so drop the fng looser and find ur self a guy who loves u.

Answer 4

I have been where you are, and truthfully verbal abuse is worse than physical abuse because it stays with you mentally. If you love him and want to work things out perhaps you need to one tell him how his words have hurt you and two seek counseling. But most importantly love yourself for who you are, and I have learned anyone can say they love you but caring is totally different because if you care about someone there are just some things you just don't do or say. Good luck and remember to always, always put self first!

Answer 5

if ur husband truely loves u, he wouldn't mind ur size. he's a bit too harsh on u. i feel sorry for u. husbands are all so. they just blame their wives for not able to make em sexually pleased. dun take it into heart. i'm sure he'll understand u sometime later. if u want not to feel so depressed, u can calm urself down, do some sports eg. yoga to relax ur body. yoga helps u slim down & be physically mentally balanced. dun worry.

Answer 6

You should seek marriage counseling. If he doesn't change, leave him. I wouldn't stay in a situation like that if I were you.

Answer 7

Sit down and talk to him about it. If that doesn't work get marriage counseling. You can't go around holding that stuff in it is unhealthy.

Answer 8

Might be mad from work, some people bring work troubles to their home

Answer 9

I think he has a beer belly or really bad breath,....don't you?
Then whe he shares,so shuold you,if you're having an "honesty festival ! "

Answer 10

Tell him how you feel.... and ask him to tell you what the problem is.....communication is the key