she lies about evrything .
2006-12-18 20:19:31 · 20 answers · asked by teddydeji 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People lie usually to cover a problem theyre not willing to confront. The more and the bigger the lies usually signals a large problem. So chances are theres a huge underlying problem in your marriage and shes trying her hardest to avoid it. Hard to pinpoint it on here without knowing both of you so I can only speculate here. Maybe she cheated on you and is sorry now and trying very hard to keep it from you, only an example. It wont be easy especially if shes avoiding the issue, but somehow you must dicover what the main problem is and there are thousands of possibilities here so please be totally sure before confronting her. You can go straight to her but its going to be even harder to tell if shes telling the truth or what. You will need to look for the smallest of signs that could lead to the problem. Theres always the chance you may never know. You can also try to get a mutual friend to talk to her and see if shell open up to them. There probably is not going to do much good to try and get her professional help as shell probably refuse it or wont talk. Not an easy task since shes lying about everything til you can sort out the difference between what are lies and the truth. Good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-18 20:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is what my husband thinks about me too. That is why it is just best that some people don't stay together. If you know without a shadow of a doubt that she is lying and you hate her leave. I have no reason to lie maybe she does. Either you have accused her so much of lying that she don't care anymore like i have or You just think she is lying because you don't' trust her or like the answers she gives you.
If you think she is messing around then you had better listen to your gut. Every time someone has messed around on me I knew it as soon as it started but this sick empty feeling in the pit of my stomach.
If you don't think that she is messing around then you really need to sit down and talk to her. You are her husband and should know her better than anyone else.
If you have just gotten to the point of hating her then why prolong the enviable? Once there isn't any trust you have nothing else.
Good Luck
2006-12-18 20:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by Feather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why, is she scared of your reaction to the truth?
You hate her so much?
When did all this start and why?
What sort of lies are they, what is she hiding?
Is she hiding bottles of alcohol for instance?
Staying out late, or telling you how handsome you are?
You seem to be angry about this and I would say that maybe if you hate her so much you move away for a while, what has she done that is so bad?
Remember we all lie sometimes. Be a little more forgiving. Try to be more flexible and talk to her about it.
Ask her for a fresh start.
I recently told a relative I loved their new wallpaper, but I had lied, so they were not offended. I hate flowery wallpaper and it looked naff.
If you want to work things out, you should try to understand why she needs to hide things from you!
What is she doing wrong that she needs to cover up?
2006-12-18 20:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by My name's MUD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Her she must stop the lying, and that you are hating her for it. If she continues to keep lying you will eventually hate her enough to leave her and wont be able to change your mind. She must realize that her lying must stop . If you can talk to her and find out why she keeps this up maybe you can find a way to get her to stop it. Try and forgive her enough to see if you have a chance of working this out . Good Luck to you
2006-12-18 21:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by edyedith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Teddy, What you need to do,is have a heart to heart talk,and ask her why she has been lying to you lately.If you can't get a straight answer,i would think maybe she is seeing someone else. I hope i am wrong about that. Try to work things out if you can.
Clowmy
2006-12-18 20:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you! A relationship should have foundations of honesty and trust, it sounds like you wife has shattered these. You need to have a long hard think and discussion about whether these can ever be rebuilt. Good luck with this, it's going to be tough (I suspect it already is!)
2006-12-18 20:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by ehc11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she lies you about small details as long as big things, than you have a problem in your couple...maybe she doesnt trust you anymore, or maybe she discovered that her life should be better without you
anyway, you should open your eyes and try to understand her reasons....i dont think u hate her, i think you are disapointed and u wish things come back to normal
2006-12-18 20:29:07 · answer #7 · answered by cristina.redrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get her some help, if she want get help tell her things are about to change you want out if she doesnot tell you the truth. but you also have to tell the truth and try to work your problems out together, because it does take two to make it or break it. i am not trying to be smart but have been in a situation in the pass like this. good luck and bless your family.
2006-12-18 20:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I UNDERSTAND HOW HARD IT IS FOR YOU TO FIND OUT THAT THE WOMAN YOU LOVE IS BEING DISHONEST. THE BEST TING YOU CAN DO IS TALK TO HER ABOUT WHAT IS BOTHERING YOU. THAT'S THE ONLY WAY TO FIND OUT WHAT CAUSED THAT. TRY TO DEAL WITH IT TOGETHER- AFTER ALL YOU ARE MARRIED AND YOU ARE A TEAM, YOU SHOUD SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS TOGETHER. MAYBE THERE IS SOMETHING THAT HAPPENED TO HER AND SHE IS ASHAMED OF IT? DON'T JUST START HATING HER!
2006-12-18 20:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and its in ur hands to take ur decision
if u see that there is no more trust u should split instead of living the next years with doubts !
good luck
2006-12-18 20:27:12 · answer #10 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋