I am engaged and I will get married in two months, My boyfriend have a surprise for me on the 24 and dinner just for us and my mother want me to spend the 24 with my family. but I really don't want to spend christmas with them specially because I don't have a good relationship with my father and I really want to be with my boyfriend. I don't know what to do...help!
2006-12-18 20:10:54 · 16 answers · asked by shantabelly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Since you are beginning a new life with this man, then you have every right to spend the holiday with him. In fact, that is what you should do. If your family does not understand that, then it is their loss. Be thankful that you have someone loving and understanding to hold on to during the cold!
2006-12-18 20:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see your family for Christmas. This may be the last time that you will be able to spend time with some of them. You and your boyfriend should have a separate Christmas Celebration that you can spend together. It could also become a romantic tradition shared by the two of you. That way each year you can alternate who's family to spend the holiday with and have your own private holiday with just the two of you.
2016-05-23 06:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family should come first, but because you have a bad relationship with your father and you are getting married in 2 months, he and his family are your family, too. He already has plans for you. I say go with him and call your family on Christmas to wish them a Merry Christmas. Maybe both of you could stop by your family's house the 24th real quick or sometime Christmas Day. My family is in Michigan (I'm in south Alabama), so I will be spending Christmas Eve and Day with my boyfriend and his family. I will be talking to my family Christmas morning for at least an hour.
2006-12-18 23:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it nice to patch up things with your dad this Christmas? You can tell your parents that you'll be having dinner with your boyfriend first then you can ask your boyfriend if after dinner you can spend time together with your family. It would make you feel good if before your marriage you can re-establish a good relationship with your dad so that you can have a happy and peaceful married life later on.
2006-12-18 20:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by dimma59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience... go visit your family with your boyfriend for a few hours, your family will be less likely to argue or bring up touchy issues with him around, then make an excuse up that you must do later on in the afternoon, such as needing to pick up some last minute gifts, etc... then leave by mid to late afternoon, go with your boyfriend, give him lots of lovin that night. then both sides will be happy
2006-12-18 20:17:46 · answer #5 · answered by mr_hozer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could bring your fiance' to your parents.Regardless,of the relationship with your father you should spend it together.Especially on Christmas.I think it would be special for all of you.Either way have a great Christmas.. & Congratulations for you and your fiance'.
2006-12-18 20:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by First Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be with your boyfriend and you are old enough to make that decision and take the consequences of a rift with your family members do it. I would rather be with my boyfriend on Christmas eve. Maybe you could arrange to stop by on Christmas Day...
2006-12-18 20:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's important to be with your family at this time - your mother shouldn't lose your company because you don't get on well with your dad. How about a compromise? tell your mother you aren't able to make 24th but can spend 25th or 26th with your parents instead?
2006-12-18 20:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by Angelic Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriend. But, if possible, before that spend a day with your mother. I solve such problems in this way.
2006-12-18 20:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definatly family always comes first. And since yall are just b/f and g/f it's not the same.. so spend it with your family, they have been there the longest
2006-12-18 20:13:10 · answer #10 · answered by Odd One Out 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋