Is getting married really tricky?????

Question

Posted on 14-AUG-06


Assalamoalaykum Brothers and Sisters

Tell me..Is getting married really that hard and tricky??? I am kind of getting tired of finding someone.

Me...a very decent person, and mashallah I have achieved a lot as far as worldly matters go. I also try to lead my life in an Islamic way. In short, I am not that bad that no one would like to marry me. But still its ben very very tough for me to find a nice muslim girl to marry.

What has happened to people?? Why have they become so materialistic?? I am pretty shocked to know that people ask me what kind of movies I like, what kind of music I like and nothing else when they try to know me. I understand that one might want to know how I enjoy the lighter moments in life, but is that everything?? Shouldn't one ask about my religious inclination, my social/charity activities, my thoughts for society and things like that??

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Answer 1

no getting married is easy having the intestinal fortitude to stick it out and make it work is the hard part.

Answer 2

Let's face it, with a 66% divorce rate in this nation, and of those, 20% are admittedly unhappy, marriage is thankfully becoming a thing of the past. Yet millions continue to throw away their dreams and goals, and trap themselves. Why? The answer is quite simple: Money. There are literally BILLIONS to be made off of foolish people. We are all born with the impression that "You are going to be miserable unless you marry someone." This is often said by the parents, whom are either miserable, or divorced themselves, wanting what they think is the best for their children. The media, fueled by dollars, pushes the wife, husband and three kids’ image daily upon everyone using TV, radio, internet, even respectable newspapers engage in this propaganda. The "marriage industry" has (as I said earlier) billions at stake. The TRUTH is: you are your own person. Marriage is (in this modern day) a defunct, un useful, and in some cases, a brutal way of oppression against ones dreams, desires, wishes, hopes, and free wills. Now, I am in no way wishing upon anyone engaged in a monogamous relationship to stop. It is imperative however, that the two people engaged in the relationship, heterosexual or homosexual, be free to do what they want. If one wants to go to schooling, get a different job, or travel, the partner has absolutely NO right to attempt to force the other person not to. Do not believe the hype. Do not believe the lies. Marriage is NOT essential to health. Millions live happily single. You are not miserable alone. You do not need kids, (our populations are too large anyway.) You and your partner do not need to be married. What does a certificate of marriage prove? Does it decide how you feel for someone? All that certificate does is cement the current situation you are in. It is extremely costly both to your credit, and your wallet to break from whatever situation you may have gotten yourself into by spending thousands on a wedding that all led to this: Misery. Be smart people, be yourselves.

Answer 3

Good for you man!!!
But the problem here is very religios .very charitable., and very idealistic people are very hard to live with...
Thats beoz they usually expect the same standard form other also!!!!Why would someone want to marry somebody because he is extremely charitable...its a small life that we have so we try to enjoy it as much as we can, within the boundary that we set for ourselves!!!..there is nothing wrong with you man...just imagine a wife might expect you to buy siomething for her with the oney that you have but you might thinnk it is beeter to give it away as charity!!!
thats the problem...unless you find a person who is equally charitable or equally idealistic as you...you might have a tought ime

Answer 4

Sorry approximately your quandary, I surely have a chum who is going via comparable concern as u, i comprehend it extremely is tough...because of the fact it extremely is been 2 weeks in view that yiur suitable pal's wedding ceremony, u can deliver her a quick textual content fabric courteously asking her how she's settling into married life so she knows your nevertheless around not forgetting her as a chum. by the way- the place is your suitable pal from initially? (which city/city) because of the fact my pal (guy) even have been given married in view that 2 weeks in the past...

Answer 5

Not tricky...just alot of hard work. Alot of determination. And one hell of alot of fight. You have to fight to keep a marriage together. And over a period of time, you will learn about that person. I wouldn't ask any of those questions early. Just date and have fun in the beginning. Then when it turns serious, you find out the answers. Then you fight like hell to keep it together.

Answer 6

hi, I am amaaried musslim woman I'v been married from 3 years ago and I have a girl and I also have ajob,I think you have to be patiant and you have to choose your man in an islamic way belive me you will find the happeiness with that way, me and my husband prayed to Allah at the first moment of our first night together and I think that that thing is the reason of being in love untill now, so be sure that Allah will find the man that is suitable to you and gift him to you.

Answer 7

If you think there are a set of questions that are more important than others, why not take the lead and ask them yourself? After all, when u get their answer, you can judge how compatible u are to them...

Answer 8

No, its not tricky. Its timing. Thats all. Get out there and mingle. I saw your picture you should have no problems at all.

Good luck and happy holidays!

Answer 9

GETTING MARRIED IS NOT TOO TRICKY,STAYING MARRIED IS ALMOST A MIRACLE.