all because we are not from the same locality. i have been hanging on all this time hoping time will change their minds but they still say no. i am not getting younger. we love each other so much but my resolve is thinning out. wat do i do? please this is critical
2006-12-18 18:46:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're not ready to marry anyone - you posted a question last week saying you were torn between two men.
Make up your mind. It sounds like you're getting a bit desperate.
2006-12-18 19:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by RM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 mnths is a long time for parents to be still against you being together with their son, I would have thought they would have accepted you by now, parents can be difficult to win over but maybe you should sit down with them and your boyfriend and tell them that you are going to make a life for yourselves either with or without there concent. If you are both happy together then you will eventually move in with eachother and probably get married if things are working out well, even if thats a year down the line surely the parents will see that you want to be together and become your stepparents that are there for YOUR support as well as his. Its your life at the end of the day, YOU decide whats best, if you are letting his parents come between you then maybe he is too much a mummys boy and not willing to stand up for you and if thats the case then its time to move on. Goodluck.
2006-12-19 03:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by stuart p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now if he loves you as deeply as you do him then there should be no reason why his parents should come between you and him. You control your destiny. How old are you anyways? If you are a teenager then re-think your future and be patient. If you are twenty-one and above, go full speed ahead and fight for the love that you have. All the best.
2006-12-22 23:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by idfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem some years back with partners father. We never gave up seeing each other and have now been married 7 years.
He as now accepted me as part of the family.
2006-12-19 02:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does it matter- its not like you are marrying them - tell them to get bent, besides if your man hasnt got the balls to stand up to them and tell them this then he's either so weak that his parents will ALWAYS be controlling him or he's not that serious about you. A little conversation about where you stand is in order methinks.
2006-12-19 03:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by thecoldvoiceofreason 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why worry about what they say or think ..
You are in a relationship with the son not the whole family, Just get on with your lives , do you best to make a nice home with your BF and sooner or later the family will see the happiness that you have and will warm to your charms..
2006-12-19 04:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by robert x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day its not up to them, its between you and your boyfriend as to whether you get married or not. Tell your man to get a spine and do what he wants, not what they want. Good luck. Let me know what happens in the future. lol
2006-12-19 02:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by eeore 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you dating him or them?
Does he have any balls?
Go to Las Vegas and get married.
Before you go, get an apartment for the both of you to come home to and if the parents don't like it , then too bad, so sad.
2006-12-19 02:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by Astro Gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do his parents have to do with the matter ??
If he isn't old enough to make up his own mind, he isn't
old enough to marry anyway...
Move on and find a real man...
2006-12-19 02:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this really has nothing to do with his parents if you love each other just get on with it,these people have no right to choose whom their son marries in this day and age
2006-12-19 03:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by thunderchild67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋