I have been married for three years now and I can not live with his addiction. The problem is that my parents believe that in our family no one went through divorce and if I do it I will be excommunicated from my own family, but they are the only one to help me to get out of this situation. What should I do. I'm relly sad right now and my husband is somewhere out drinking. Help me please. Thank you.
2006-12-18 18:20:41 · 4 answers · asked by brenda29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you ask me, I'd say no one should have to live with someone else's addiction. Maybe you could try pointing out his problem. But if he's like any addict, he thinks he doesn't have one. My advice to you is to take your problem to someone that can really help, like a psychiatrist. Someone who has training with these kind of things. Because honestly, I don't think too many people on this site will be of any help to you. Good luck to you.
2006-12-19 02:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by antzmarching88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you've already tried this but incase you didn't, tell your husband that you will no longer put up with his addiction. It's hurting everyone not just him. Tell him he's being too selfish (if he refuses to try and stop or join AA) There are so many resources out there and so many ways to beat an addiction there's simply no excuse for his actions. Tell him that and if he doesn't comply, be strong and do what you need to do. It'll be hard but it's probably the best for yourself and for your family. My cousin recently left her alcoholic husband of 2 years. She struggled very much and this seems to be the best decision she could have made given the circumstances. Good luck hope all goes well.
2006-12-19 15:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to give him an ultimatum and stick to it.
What do you mean when you say your family is "the only one to help me to get out of this situation"? Do you mean financial or emotional support? Kids? If you mean financial or help with kids, you may need to find a way to be independent before you put yourself in such a position. Maybe check with the YWCA or United Way, they both can refer you to programs in your area to get you on your feet. It will be tough, but it will most likely be harder the longer you wait.
Best of luck whatever you decide.
2006-12-22 03:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by raysny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife of nearly ten years almost left me for my drinking problem. If you matter to him he will do something about his problem.
I go to AA a few times a week and it really helps.
I haven't had a drink in 6 months and the marriage is starting to re-build. But remember, he will only change if he wants to and you have to be prepared in the event he is not. Best of luck and God Bless you for not giving up on him yet.
OHH AND CHECK OUT AL-ANON. it is for the loved ones of alcoholics, they can really help you understand him, and better prepare you for life with your "sick" loved one.
2006-12-20 17:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by bobtaf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋