2006-12-18 17:55:36 · 18 answers · asked by Spliff08069 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would never tell the kids. I have spoke to a lawyer and could get in trouble if the person he had the affair with lies. He is still having women on the side.
2006-12-18 18:03:35 · update #1
More important to keep out of it. Take your issues to the husband, not the family.
2006-12-18 17:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to completely stay out of such an issue to begin with.Yes,it is wrong and you feel for all involved,but no matter what,it will come out and if you are the one breaking the news,you will end up being the hurt party involved.The children should never be informed about something of this nature concerning their parents.Deep down i am sure that there are signs,that the wife is probably picking up on to begin with.No one knows what really goes on behind close doors,except those that close it,so just worry about whats in your daily activities,and let others attend to their own as well.This is truly straight from my heart to yours.Others like you that want to do the right thing,always come out in the end being the trouble maker.Another thing,if this person has been cheating for two years,i am sure there has been more years that you probably are not aware of.So try to relax and put yourself first,not the world.We can't cure nor fix anything that is beyond us.Best wishes and have a wonderful holiday!
2006-12-19 02:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definatly tell the mother of kids, the kids should definatly here from the parent.
Other wise the kids are left to make a decision that is hard to tell there mum. Better to advise the mum she needs to know so she can live happier with out a cheating husband
2006-12-19 02:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nat555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tread lightly on this..the women may know he has had an affair, and be resentful you are aware of it.
plus, are you sure..like 150% sure he has had an affair with somone? If you are , then tell the women, in the most kindest, gentlest way you can. The kids do not need to know..if they are older, they will have figured it out for themselves. No matter what, he is still thier dad.
2006-12-19 01:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling their kids is worst.
The wife is surely more mature to handle this blow much more than those kids. Unless the kids are above 25 yrs of age then i would say telling their kids is better, so they could go comfort their mom. And calm her down.
2006-12-19 01:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you making this confession for your self? if yes just tell your wife if it comes out to the kids eventually then deal with it at that time but kids dont need to be brought into that type if sh!t...if your asking this in regards to other peoples lives it might be the smarter thing to say nothing to anyone
2006-12-19 02:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell the adult which in this case is the woman(mother) that her stupid husband is sleeping around. The truth hurts and their is no easy or nice way to put it.
2006-12-19 02:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wife should know about it for sure. But when kids are involved it becomes difficult and painful. Follow your heart, and if you do break the news to her, Be gentle.
2006-12-19 01:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the kids out if it for goodness sake, they don't need to hear it from anyone else except their parent when and if the time is right
2006-12-19 01:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's most important to tell them altogether. but honestly, tell the children first, because then the mom will try to tell the kids that you hate them or whatever.
2006-12-19 01:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lynne Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋