For those who think this isnt worth answering, no need to post an angry answer please.. just skip my question..
My exboyfriend and I are broken up for almost two years already. In the past two years he had been trying to come back to me but it just feels like he's ready and then he's not again until i got sick and nearly died that he became so persistent and so ready. Yet, the way i look at it he's still the same, he hasnt changed. He still doesn't care much, and now that he's vacationing in a different country, he hasn't even contacted me, and whenever i tell him to stop playing games with me, he would beg me to give him a chance and not totally close the door and so i would because i still love him and then again.. there he goes again.. he won't do anything to work it.. just letting time pass by.. it's a dilemma cause I love the guy but the way he's going on.. it seems that i have no place in his life..
2006-12-18 17:05:06 · 13 answers · asked by evismea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's doing what he's doing because you are allowing him to.
He knows your heart and he knows it well. He knows that you are good to him and he knows that you still want him. So he dances around the ideal that you want him and he can come and go as he likes.
You can't make him love you. You can't make him make up his mind and get serious with you. But you can let him know that time is running out and that you have decided that you no longer are interested in having a relationship with him.
Now.... people do change (some for the better) while others change for the worse. But you're in no condition to try and wait on him to see if he will come around and be serious with you.
You have the upper hand now, so leave while it's good. You'll hurt a little, but not as much as you will if you give in and get burnt again.
2006-12-18 17:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already know the answer. But, just in case your heart won't let your brain kick into gear; move on! Forget about him. You really have wasted to much time on him. You'll miss him for a while, so what. You'll eventually meet someone who will treat you like you want to be treated. Its obvious that he doesnt. Keep your friends close for support. Moving was suggested, but I gotta tell ya. You will need your friends and family to help you stay focusedl. You may want to share with them what your trying to do so they can support you.
2006-12-18 17:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop letting him play games with your emotions get away mentally and psychically let down your guard let someone ELSE new in it will change your life 4 the better. if You keep doing the same things with this guy you'll keep getting the same results "unhappy unfulfilled" do something new diffrent let this go. If it's ment to be love willl find a way.
2006-12-18 17:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. And know what I did? Moved away to get away from him. I stopped taking his calls, his mail, and threw all the stuff he gave me in the garbage. It made me feel soooo relieved- and shortly after I did all that, I met my husband. This guy is not ready for a serious realtionship. He doesn't love you- because if he DID.......he would be on that phone and in your face ALL THE TIME. He's in love with the idea of being in love.
2006-12-18 17:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by Penny P 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If he is doing this to you now what do you think he will do if you ever get married. He will never change and don't think you will be able to change him once you get married, because that will not happen. Just let him go and ignore any contact he tries to make with you..
2006-12-18 17:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he wants to keep you hanging on because he enjoys you, but doesn't love you enough to commit or change. You need to close the door if you don't want to be a revolving door.
2006-12-18 17:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a 2-way street life has to share and give. Your love is one sided. He is only interested when it is convenient for him. You need to put him behind you and go on with your life.
2006-12-18 17:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by Card Modeler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow it seems he is using you as a door mat he know you well take him back he is playing with you you just need to move on in your life and please for get about this guy if not he is just going to hurt you more in the long run.
2006-12-18 17:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by little_bear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if he is stringing you along and playing games. You don't deserve that. So stop letting him do that to you. Move on and find someone who is worthy of you.
2006-12-18 17:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by bzas1girl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Start looking for greener pastures.
2006-12-18 17:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by samaustinashlee_billiewjr 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋