I recentely got married, ours is love marriage, before jackie was very open to me.., but now a days i have found that he is getting irritated when i ask any thing about his sisters, if i force him to answer he will tell something and sometimes even trys to change the topic. From this behaviour is feeling jackie is ignoring me. I dont have any one nor my parents nor my friends to help me in this matter...... please tell should i change myself or tell me how can i change jackie.....
2006-12-18 16:57:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
please stop asking a lot of questions as most men hate it.
2006-12-18 17:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by pazunit 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He may be estranged from his family for a reason and does not want you to know. it might be some family secret and he is concerned about telling you. I would stop asking questions for a while and when you are feeling up to it maybe you could write him a letter - not now and ask him why he does not want to talk about his family and that you feel like he is keeping secrets from you and you thought that the relationship was based on trust. Does he know about your family? Also dont try to change this person because firstly you dont know what you are changing - you dont know the whole story and until you do you would be best not to run in and upset this person more.
The fact is that you are asking things becuase you dont know. Normally people in love want to share everything with the person they are in love with but if he is avoiding the questions there is a story there somewhere and if you love this person you will wait for the story to unfold.
2006-12-18 18:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi divya,
Its very quite common thing which occurs in any family. Usually husbands wil be having a feeling that wife may not like if they are close with there parents/sisters. The other reason is 90% of the husbands think that wife's will make them depart from there family. Dont worry, thats nothing new in ur family. Be more friendly and ask positive things reg his sisters. He have to get confidence on u.
2006-12-18 17:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by venkat 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why change yourself, you have married this guy and obviously you want to find out more about his family or rather your new family
It sounds to me like he is trying to hide something from you, you have 2 option's you can either sit him down and ask him if there is anything wrong and if he wants to talk about?
or
You could just not mention it again and leave it a few weeks and wait and see what happens - If he is lying to you make a mental note of things that he is telling and then catch him out or bring stuff up that he has said in front of sister and gauge her reaction.
2006-12-18 17:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by deb_star_82 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You really need to stop asking him a question he doesn't want to answer. There may be a really sad or bad story behind that question and he does not want to talk or even think about it. You repeatedly asking him the question will only cause problems for you and your marriage. Spare yourself the trouble and drama and just enjoy your marriage. Eventually he will come out and tell you. And if he doesnt then that is okay.
2006-12-18 17:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. J 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi, you must ask Jacky why he has started to make life difficult for you, and why his sisters do not contact you. ASK HIM WHY HE MARRIED YOU, PERHAPS IT WAS FOR MONEY, YOUR HOME, PLEASE BE CAREFUL, HE SOUNDS AS THOUGH HE IS STARTING TO ISOLATE YOU, KEEP IN TOUCH WITH FRIENDS, you sound threatened, keep in touchlol
2006-12-20 07:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by doda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your case is very much like mine. But there is no direct answer to this question, just stop asking him, a time will come he himself will tell you, don't disturb your life due to such minor things! All the best!!
2006-12-18 17:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by glover 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like he has fallen out with his family & doesn't want to talk abouit it. Be patient & don't try to force it out of him; no-one likes being interrogated, particularly by someone they feel should be on their side.
2006-12-18 18:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may something happened to him with his sisters in the past some ting that he doesnt want to talk about cause its to up setting
2006-12-18 20:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't change people..why do you care about his sisters? you are married to him not them. Men hate nagging repeat questions. He clearly don't want to talk about his sisters so let the man be.
2006-12-18 17:07:32 · answer #10 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
watch out....bigamist in sight
2006-12-18 17:04:32 · answer #11 · answered by COOL CYBERDUDE 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋