Dad gettin remarried, Sister devastated.?

Question

Odd situation here.
Let me lay the story 1st.
My dad left my mother right after my sister's baptism, she was about 5. He moved to Texas to be with this woman who he says he is in love with. After almost 8 years of them fighting, him beeing kicked out and arrested they decide to get married January 1st 2007.
Now my sister has always been closer to him than I was.
But when she found this news out she totaly closed up and cried in her room for almost a whole day.
I have no issue with the wedding.

Now the question.
How do I help her feel better and how do I make him understand how my sister is feeling?

Answer 1

You be there to explain to your sister that his moving to Texas wasn't because of her. He is an adult and has the right to marry anyone he wants too. If she is going to the wedding she needs to be happy about it, if shes not then it really doesn't matter. You dad doesn't need to understand, just tell him that you do not know what her problem is but she cried the entire day she found out. Let him ask her what the problem is.

Answer 2

depending on how mature your sister is, you cant play communicater for the both of them. your sister needs to learn to be able to talk to your dad about how she feels regardless of him getting married or not. its not the easiest, but if she sees that you can talk to him even though youre not close to him, it will influence her to do the same. you can be there for moral support and let her know that its ok to feel the way she does, but dont encourage her to keep her feelings inside.

if she keeps bottling up her feelings you never know what she may do.

as for your dad. have your man to man convo and discuss the future. somewhere along you discussing family you might want to bring up your sister and mention that your sister might have mixed feelings about them 2 getting married. you dont have to get into details telling him that she stayed locked up in her room to cry her eyes out. but you should at least try to build a conversation about how the new step mom will be a positive influence on your sister and what the new step mom contributes into the family.

all in all, be open ears to your sisters and try to be more of shoulder to cry on instead of the messenger. conversate more with your dad and include your sister in it because she is apart of the family.

goodluck.

Answer 3

u cant..just give her time and i went through a similar thing when my father left...u just have 2 give time..remember time heals the broken heart..but u should b there and let her know that u will always b there 4 her