Hello
About 8 months ago I decided to leave my job as I had feeings for someone i worked with. This person was my manager & was also female too. We'd worked together for over a year & got on great. Throughout this time she also gave me the impression she was attracted to me too....so that's when I thought it best to leave my job so it didn't get awkward for any of us.
Anyway, not long after i left, i did tell her my feelings but things turned bad. She not only lied to me but also said things behind my back to my other work collegues.
The thing is it was the best job i'd ever had and I miss everyone & everyhing so so much. I have no other friends in my life & as i feel really sad it's such a struggle to try & start all over again.
Before I left we all promised to meet up for drinks, but that doesn't happen and it makes me feel so left out. I have no one left.
I'm running out of space so i hope i will be able to add a little more............
2006-12-18 16:50:52 · 5 answers · asked by onebrokensoul25 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I've only seen her once & are back on speaking/friendly terms but i never see them anymore.
I work from home now and when i do go out i feel so lost & empty.
When i worked there i had so much to look forward to...going away for work, work itself, the people & a social life.
It seems as though i lost everything for just being honest with someone. Someone i truely thought the world of & thought i could trust. At the very least someone to call a friend. I know i didn't misread her intentions, but it feels as though i am the only one who is hurting an being punished.
I guess because i know what they'll all be up to at this time of the year it just makes me sad, when it's just me.
It takes a while for me to trust people and for the 1st time in a very long while i thought i could trust this person and people i once called my friends.
I feel as though i'll never be able to fully forget or move on from what happened.
I wish things could have been different
Thank you
2006-12-18 16:51:47 · update #1
i am sorry that this happened to you *hugs* i am sure that things will get better. may be talking to a therapist would help you move on.
2006-12-18 16:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by joe s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be a bit depressed at the moment. The sadness the feeling of being lost and that your alone are all symptoms of being Depressed.
It unfortunate that she betrayed your trust after you did everything right. You waited until you left your job to tell you feelings, you were honest and upfront.
Could you go back to your old job? You were obviously quite happy there, your on friendly speaking terms with her now and you were good friends with your colleagues so give it a shot i reckon.
I would not pursue her again if that's how she treated you, an upfront answer saying she wasn't interested or whatever would have been fine, She shouldn't have ran her mouth behind your back that was just disrespectful after all the trust you put in her. You don't need to be treated like that.
I am really sorry that she treated you like that, and i hope you can get your trust back in some people. You seem like a really nice Person and anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend so don't hold back and get your social life back into full swing : )
The best of luck i hope it all works out for you : )
2006-12-19 01:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by Shes a Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is harsh. I guess now that you are out of that scene though you won't be the object of ridicule. I guess you have to try to look at it through a postive light.
It is bad what she did but I guess because you left on those terms it's not like you can take any legal action or anything. You work from home now? Is there anyway of getting a job like you are doing now in a workplace so that you are around people some more?
I guess it's easier said than done but you should try to get out more instead of being holed up at home. I'm much like you - I go to work but don't have many friends really. I joined a GLBT bowling club and I live for that moment each week now.
2006-12-19 01:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to step out of your comfort zone and trust again. I hope your are putting yourself out there to find yourself another job! We all go through "dessert periods" in our lives... those are the times where we seek answers, and become more spiritual. Just know that things will get better. More Hugs from me too!
Love,
Gregory
2006-12-19 01:05:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the story of my life - I am sad/lonely & don't know what to do any more
2006-12-19 01:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Patches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋