this is a day after she confides in you her crush on aboy you know nothing about
2006-12-18 16:49:36 · 34 answers · asked by brigdvin 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
let her know that crush is very normal and you understand her.
and then tell her she is too young and when it is time you will let her to go out with guys but now it is too early
2006-12-18 17:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by Me 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Umm... It's not wrong at all.. Did you not see the question the little 16 year old girl just asked about not being able to concieve a child b/c she'd already had 2 abortions and is about to have another one. Girls today are maturing WAY to fast and getting themselves into nothing but trouble and heartache. You are trying to protect her and God bless you for that. Not very many mothers will worry themselves about things such as these nowadays.
2006-12-19 04:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when she's twelve she should be able to do some group dating including boys and girs mostly for socialbility, then maybe when she's 13-14 let her do some doble dates, then when she's 15-16 you might want to let her go on her own by then she will be ready and also she will thank you because she will have had a ton more experience by then, that would be the best way for me i hope you find that it works out!
2006-12-19 05:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother tried that with me. In an ideal world it would work. I'm a model citizen and my mother is my best friend, however when my mother banned relationships a door was closed. I did have boyfriends, several, and a few I would have never dated if I thought my mother would let me have a boyfriend. My mother and I had a talk when I was 13 or 14 and I explained that I had boyfriends the entire time, it kind of hurt her knowing I would sneak. However, hormonoes are there and the desire to discover is to. It's a lot easier {and safer for your relationships} to talk wtih your daughter about relationships as well as what you want for her and set rules such as you have to meet all of these boys, and what not. Trust me, if you think your winning by telling her No your really hurting you both.
2006-12-18 17:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by Tinkerbell 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At age 11, crushes are normal--the hormones are just starting to kick in, and she's seeing boys differently. It is not wrong, no. You are protecting her. When she's a little older (13-14), then group dating should be ok. Making her wait until 16, though, might be a tad unrealistic. Good Luck.
2006-12-18 20:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
get real
i am a teenage girl and if someone told me i wasnt allowed to have boyfriends i would laugh in their face because it is just a healthy part of growing up. do you really want her to be a social leper because you are obsessed with her social life? if you try and control her she will just end up hating you. just be there for her and give her friendly advice not unreasonable rules which she will obviously break! Would you rather have her be honest about her life with you or have the constant worry that she has lied to you to go out with a guy where if you were more relaxed you would know exactly where she is.
2006-12-19 06:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent, so if that is your rule, it's not wrong for you to tell her that. However, you might want to find out exactly what she means by "going with" a boy. Lots of kids this age have boyfriends/girlfriends but they aren't really "dating" the way we think of it. I can understand you don't want her going out somewhere with a boy at this age. Lots of times though this age kids say they are going with someone, but they never really even talk to each other. You just need to let your child know what your expectations are for her and stick to your guns. I have a 14 year old daughter and she isn't allowed to date. She is allowed to have a boyfriend and I would allow her to go somewhere with him if either I took them or his parents took them (like a football game or movie) but I don't allow them to go somewhere by themselves. Just remember, it is normal for 11 year old girls to start getting interested in boys, try not to make too big a deal about it. Forbidden fruit is the sweetest.
2006-12-19 02:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think now is the perfect time to talk about what your family rules are. In some families, it is okay to call someone your boyfriend or girlfriend and to go with a group of friends that includes them but not to go on dates with them alone. In other families, none of this is okay. You need to make it clear what you mean by "go" with, so your daughter knows what the expectation is. Also, it is helpful to explain why these rules exist so your daughter can see you are not doing it to be mean or controlling, but because you love her and want what is best for her.
2006-12-19 06:56:40 · answer #8 · answered by wisegirl1204 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay whats wrong with you guys? 11 and not being able to go on a date? I hope you know that your child will lose connection with you by 13 if you do give in at least say well i would like to meet him
2006-12-19 03:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"GO"ing with a boy and dating a boy are not the same thing. GOing together, just means that they are a couple. At 11, they're probably holding hands between classes & writing notes. This isn't dating. It's just their way of announcing to their peers that they're any item.
2006-12-19 00:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by Renee C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it not wrong at all 11 year old should not be dating my mom did the same thing to me and I dont really care cause now I can date. plus you are the parent and you make the rules she may get mad at you for awhile and try to argue the case but she will get over it soon enough and then respect and thank you for the desicon you made
2006-12-19 11:40:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋