my BFF talks about this one guy all the time but the problem is that i kinda like him too. is it wrong to like him at the same time? my other friends said they're going to try to hook me up with him but i don't want to if it will hurt my friend. what should i do?
2006-12-18 16:39:34 · 11 answers · asked by Callie P 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you only like him only a little bit I would leave well enough alone. Even if this guy likes you more then he likes your best friend, is it really worth losing a friendship over a guy that you "kinda" like? If you didn't know how your friend felt that would be one thing but if you do go for it with him not only will you be breaking her heart, but you will also be betraying a trust. If I were you I would tell those other friends who said they would help you hook up with him, to help your best friend hook up with him and hold out for the guy you truly like. That way your best friend will be happy and you leave yourself open to falling in love yourself with the man who is yours and yours alone.
2006-12-18 16:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Joy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can see your a caring personal friend . I wish you were around to be my friend when I was your age .First I would see who this boy gravitates to . If it is you more then your friend . Take care how you handle the situation . Be friendly and don't through the fact that this boy likes you a little more then her . If he still kind of still wants to be with you just be sweet and see where it will go from there. Remember your friend really confides in you so don't through a good friendship away over a boy . Besides you said your friend is crazy for this guy and you just kinda of like him . I know you will do a good job of being diplomatic . But also remember all is fair in love and war . Good Luck .
2006-12-18 16:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it was my best friend I'd try not to get into this girl or in your case this guy. She's a bestfriend, and bestfriends basically stick together boyfriends and girlfriends fall now and then but it's the true best friend that sticks by your side. If you end up falling in love with him then it's time to break out the convo with her. She deserves to know, likeing him is one thing, something to get over, to love him is another, something difficult to get over on acount that your BF loves him aswell. I'd stick my head somewhere else in love.
2006-12-18 16:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Patient NightShade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try considering your friend's feelings. You like him a little and your bff likes him a lot. To be a true friend, it's always friends first, and boys second.
2006-12-18 17:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's really difficult but because you only like him and your friend is in love with him, you should let her have him. It's only fair. Ever heard the expression, "never leave the one you love for the one you like because they'll leave you for the one they love." I'm not saying that this perfectly depicts your situation but it does give you some input. Hope this was at least a little helpful.
2006-12-18 16:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same vote 4 years ago and i thought to my self would my friend be as loyal as i would be. then i thought what the heck and me and that guy are about to be married we have 2 great kids. i don't talk to that friend anymore but you gotta make your self happy before you make others happy. follow your hart cause your not gonna spend the rest of your life with your friend are you?
2006-12-18 16:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...my best friend and I have discussed this ahead of time so we don't have this problem. Our resolution to both of us liking the same guy is to see who he is interested in. If he's interested in her, I step back, and I'm ok with that...cuz I want her to be happy....Same case if he likes me. I think you should talk to your friend about how you feel about him, and see how she truly feels about him...see who he likes, if either of you...and maybe my solution could work for the two of you.
2006-12-18 16:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kristina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's in love with him keep your hands off. You like him a little, she's in love with him. You're her friend so respect her feelings and keep off this guy.
2006-12-18 16:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you like him a little and she likes him alot, i think you should back away and let her have him. eventualy your little feelings will go away. If you don't want to hurt her why risk that and especially if you like him a little?
2006-12-18 17:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would just go and ask him out asap and make sure your friend never finds out or you might lose a friend which would not be right
2006-12-18 16:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by devin c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋