2006-12-18 16:17:18 · 22 answers · asked by john doe 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage counseling?
2006-12-18 16:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 19 years and I have too offer up this. Yeah, I'm the wife on this one, but sometimes I'll just agree. Even if I don't :) Why? Because sometimes you have to be the "bigger person" even if you are right and your significant other is not. It's easy to be argumentitive. Really, marrige is more work than having a job :) If you've been married 18 years, you are in better shape than most. Try to get your wife to see that you are agreeing with her needs and point it out. Hey, she likes to be thanked for some of the thankless things she does. Maybe you do as well. Offer that up! Examine the reasons you got married and stayed married - there are people out there reading this who are divorced after 5 years saying "18 years??? WOW!!!" :) It's much easier to try and fix a good thing then to try and find a new thing. If that's not a possiblity, try counsling, I know, it sounds weird, but try anything to keep love alive. 18 years is a long time. Don't let is pass by without a fight! Good luck to you!!
2006-12-18 16:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by Flowerlady NYC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually if you can't agree on anything, it's because there is some underlying problem between the two of you that always puts you at odds. I know counseling can be expensive, but if you really care about saving your marriage you will consider it. Sometimes it helps to deflect your frustrations off a third person rather than off your wife. A good counselor will also see things between the two of you that you could not possibly realize on your own.
2006-12-18 16:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by chris_in_columbia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not healthy for any couple to agree on everything. If you don't want a divorce, talk to her about your concerns. Try to make compromises, both of you. That is if you both want to save your marriage. If you have been married for 18 years, I think a little disagreeing on things shouldn't put you in divorce court. The key to marriage is communication. You have to tell her your concerns or you will end up in divorce court. Good Luck and I hope everything goes well.
2006-12-18 16:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. Did you see a counselor or talk to a pastor at your church (do you go to one)?
Sometime, we tend to focus more on the problems than the solution. Remember the first time you met, your first date? Talk to your wife if you still love her. Relationship takes a lot of efforts on both sides and also a lot of compromise. If you both truly love each other, then you will try to work things out. Don't throw away something that near and dear to your heart. It's easier to make money than to find that special someone.
God bless!
2006-12-18 16:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by childofGod 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is the hardest element that lifestyles can deal us, unreciprecated love. it is going to be very not undemanding that you will discover the timber from the timber today in spite of the undeniable fact that it is going to ensue believe. You both favor to inform your son that he's both lovd b both one among you and that its no longer some thing he has carried out. You dont aspect out why your spouse needs this. Is there anyne else in touch or have you ever had an affair perchance? It sounds as in spite of the undeniable fact that she nevertheless does love you as us women merely cant swap our love off till some thing drastic has got here about. Its a truth! i'd propose that you do flow out for a whil, perchance in inclusive of your mothers and fathers and not in any respect on your own and then come to some association inclusive of your son that you bth flow out with him mutually so as that he's acquainted with mom and pa can nevertheless be amicable. In time, perchance the causing difficulty of your wifes thoughts will be pronounced and looked after out. Dont supply up yet dont pressurise her both yet keep telling her that you're going to adore her no count what he options are. threat is she will be able to work out you as she first did once you met. I desire you the better of success and desire issues finally end up ok for you.
2016-11-27 19:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by rosenstock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling might be a possible option for you...it can be a really valuable tool. Even a pastor could probably help. If you're Christian, I would just pray and ask God to give you peace about the situation and guidance about what to do next. I hope everything works for the best.
2006-12-18 16:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE, unless you both agree to go to a Marriage Counselor.............. know it sounds Cliche' but it's a good source before you end things alltogether.
Talk it over. A good Counselor can help you sort things out and help can turn things around for the 3 of you.
2006-12-18 16:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
all marriages hit a point where you aren't synchronous. find a counsellor, don't just throw in the towel. While things may be tough now, life changes, and you CAN get back to a place where you are more in step with one another.
best of luck
2006-12-18 16:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by Kareen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!! That is not the thing to do. You have to sit and talk, take a good vacation, get sexy, do anything to save your marriage. Divorce is the worst. The heartache is so great. Please do things that she enjoys and ask her to do things that you enjoy. You will get the feelings back. The devil is trying you. Do not give in.
2006-12-18 16:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can the two of you agree on whether you're still in love or not. If not, may as well go your separate ways. If yes, try to iron out the lumps.
2006-12-18 16:20:04 · answer #11 · answered by jack w 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋