and let somebody in ????????????
2006-12-18 15:44:10 · 10 answers · asked by 9888khgd6 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
this must be a hard question, noone want's to answer it. I am sorry for being complicated.
2006-12-18 15:50:34 · update #1
COPE DUDE, if I don't pick you for best answer, let's just say , you made my week thanks..................
2006-12-18 16:01:24 · update #2
Ummm....have a party.
Surely even YOU have friends.....make a lot of appetizers, invite people...have FUN!
Accept that somebody hurt you, that they may have planned it......Accept that, and accept that the REST of us just wanna have FUN with you!
Have one of these Jell-o shooters....(shlurrp)
Life is all about getting better every day! Even if you been married 50 years, make it a little better every day!
You can lose the guard/numbness/crunchy-hardness as soon as you WANT to........
C'mon over to the FUN side.. it's more......ummmm
More Frickin FUN!
2006-12-18 15:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life has been difficult and over time you created walls and barriers to protect you from the bad people and from dangerous situations. And for a while it worked well and you felt safe, but as time went on you discover that the walls that are meant to keep bad stuff out is also locking you in. You've built them so high and so mighty that you are keeping everything out.
Clearly it is not safe to live these days without *any* walls, but you have to start letting people into your life. Maybe you can start with email friends, or chatting friends. Maybe try going out a little, or hanging out with friends more.
I don't think there is a magical cure, and the only way to do this is simply to take the plunge. Take tiny steps but definitely take them. If you need to hat you can get me at avishtevi at yahoo.
good luck
2006-12-18 15:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by avishtevi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Begin by trusting yourself, a little more each day.
Do nice things for yourself! At least one nice thing everyday, and things will turn around.
Try being Thankful for good things that happen. Don't just go out in the sun, but feel the sun's warmth on you're face, see it's brillance, and watch the squirrels and smell the flowers.
Above all, give yourself credit. Just look at how many people you have just let in!
There must be a lot of warmth in you. And it will come out, it has now.
2006-12-18 15:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by smoothsoullady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this might come across as complicated but what you need to do and i mean DO without hesitation without analyzing it seriously do it like it was second nature, no like it was breathing or like your heart beating completely involuntary like blinking what you NEED to do is stop being guarded/numb/angry/self destructive/ and hard. I think you'll find it to be fun Go on try it....just once you'll be addicted i swear. Oh yeah and let somebody in
Love ya
2006-12-18 15:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by Leash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure of your situation but I find that the more good things I do for others ie helping, listening, volenteering or just sitting and talking to others helps me take my mind off of things and I always feel better afterwards (focusing on others). Christmas is coming and there are lots of people in need of help with childrens gifts and the like.
It takes time, and lots and lots of deep breaths.... oh and you will never let anyone else in until you are ready for someone to take the place of the one you hold so dear, or think so highly of.
2006-12-18 15:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by spatandpolished 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're like a nut inside a hard shell and what you seem to desire is to be able to be more intimate with your surroundings as well as those around you.
A little practice you might consider is to open up to yourself and then maybe to others. Look around you ask yourself how it makes you feel and whatever that feeling is, accept it and continue on. As you go on your ability to be intimate with your surroundings should increase.
The reason we close ourselves off is due to fear and the desire to protect yourself from negative stimulus. So what you have to do is be ready to open yourself up to lifes ups and downs and accept it all and go on.
Good luck
2006-12-18 15:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm read some self esteem books.. and stop being self destructive for one thing.. thats what my couclers say anyway
just accept yourself for who you are... I know I make it sound like I think its easy.. but I know its not.. try and find good qualitys about yourself so others can too! come on I'm sure your a very nice person..
2006-12-18 15:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by egf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that sucks. I wish I could help but I'm all those things except self destructive, and I feel fine.
2006-12-18 15:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by mrkitties420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In psychology, self-esteem or self-worth includes a person's subjective appraisal of himself or herself as intrinsically positive or negative to some degree.
Before you can love someone else you have to love yourself. Its a matter of defining your self worth so you are able to share yourself with others.
2006-12-18 15:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by latenightdrives 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change your way of thinking....belive me...take it from experience, its not as hard as you think. Think more positivly about things and stop thinking about all the negitive.
2006-12-18 15:54:16 · answer #10 · answered by Esen A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋