Should my girlfriend help pay my childsupport???

Question

My gf and I have been together for 3 years and we purchased a home together 2 years ago. My gf makes the majority of the money and therefore pays most of the bills.I had 2 jobs to pay the bills 1 job was to pay for the housebills and the 2nd was to pay my child support. Well I no longer work at job #2 so I must rely on job #1 to pay the housebills and my child support. My gf figues out how much money we need each week to pay all of our bills, she hands me the bills she knows I can afford (from job #1's pay check)and she takes the rest inclulding the food bill and whatever is left she puts into her savings account. I used job #2's pay to cover my child support, weekly expense and put the left overs in my savings accout.Now that I don't have job #2 I can't afford to pay the housebills and my child support all from Job #1. I have asked my gf to include my child support into our housebills but she refuses she doesn't think it is an importand bill. Do you think my gf should help me out?

I forgot to mentions that if she doen't help me with my child support I could end up in jail and she doesn't seem to care. She won't shuffle the other bills around to include my child support her claim is that all of our bills are on a schedule and she can't include my child support. My gf also thinks I shoud dip into my savings account to pay my child support after all she claims she goes into hers whenever she wants something but I don't think I should have to go into my savings account to pay my child support. We did buy a house together and I think my child support should be include in the house bills.

Answer 1

Um...NO. It's your child and your child support obligation. Get another job if that's what it's going to take to pay the support. Oh, and you should send the payment off yourself.

Answer 2

I think your gf has her priorities straight! The housebills do need to be paid first because without a home, heat, electric etc. etc. where would you be living. If your gf takes on the majority of the bills why should she take on your child support? I don't think she is selfish I think she is trying to keep a roof over your head and food on the table. If your gf can go into her savings account for what she needs I think you can do the same after all this is your child not hers. And as far as having child support take the money from your pay I personally would be pissed at you for taking a tacted like that get another job and pay the child support.

Answer 3

Wasn't this talked about before buying the house together? Didn't she know about the payments by then? if you bought a house together, you should just pool your incomes together and pay what ALL needs to be paid, including the child support, if the two incomes don't cover all the bills, then you need to think of a better paying job or get another job....it's your child but the gf has known about the child from the get go yes? then if she loves you, she should love the child.....but you shouldn't expect her to just automatically pay the child support, if you're not working as much at a job, you should be helping alot around the house, to make up for her making the more money

Answer 4

NO your child support is NOT your girlfriends responsibility it is YOURS and ONLY yours! I seriously doubt she doesn't feel its an unimportant bill she just doesn't want to spend the money she works for on your responsibility. If you can not afford your child support go back to court and have it adjusted based on YOUR current income.My husbands ex gf tried to pull this before we were married his company wasn't doing well and she felt I should chip in to pay his child support. NO WAY IN HELL BUDDY the child is not mine and it is not my responsibility and that is exactly what he and I both told her. Either get a job that pays better, take a second job or go get the child support order amended.

Furthermore if you have a savings account instead of bitching and moaning go into it and pay your child support. Child support is NOT a "house" bill a house bill consists of food, mortgage, electric, gas, water, insurance, cable/internet and such NOT child support. Why did you purchase a house when you cant pay your child support? Have the child support taken directly out of your pay then your gf would see how much you make and adjust the amount of "house bills" your responsible for. Do you work at Taco Bell or something most men I know make more then their women partners get a new job!

Answer 5

It would be different if the two of you were married but to be honest your child support isnt and shouldnt be any of her responsibility unless she agrees to help you pay it and lets be fair she wasnt there when you helped create your child and she should not be expected to help you support your child unless the child resides in your home with the two of you I hope this helps and I hope you find a new job that will help pay both household bills and your child support since you are a stand up kind of guy and you love your child enough to make sure he or she will not go without.

Answer 6

Have your child support taken directly out of your check. Contact their offices and they can help you make arrangements through your accounting department at work. GF isn't responsible for your CS, but she is being unreasonable. The household bills belong to both of you. If you get the CS taken out before you bring the check home, what can she really do, but cover the difference. She needs to consider, that CS is court ordered, and that she will be paying ALL of the bills, by herself if your are arrested and sent to jail for not paying CS. Sorry you are having conflicts, try to have Happy Holidays even though.

Answer 7

NO this is your bill and has nothing to do with her be a man if it takes you finding a second job again then so be it just because you may not be with your ex you are to help raise the child you had with her. This question should not even had to be asked because well it is just common sense.

Answer 8

the key word here is YOUR child support not HERS.

YOUR child support is YOUR responsibility, not someone elses.

if you can't afford to pay YOUR child support on 1 job then go and get a second job again to pay for it.

why should she have to take care of YOUR responsibilities because YOU don't feel like doing it

Answer 9

OMG. she's already helping a lot with the bill. Its your responsability not hers.if you can't afford it its your problem not hers.Get another job because one day she'll get tire of paying more than you do kick you out of the house

Answer 10

Ok...tricky. Your g/f may be refusing to pay your child's support because she may not want to acknowledge the fact that you have a child. BUT if she loves you she should be willing to help out. In the end though it's YOUR responsibility so you may have to pick up that second job again....good luck.