I'm 21, I'm pregnent and I don't know if it's my ex-husbend's or my boyfriend.I need help to decide if I should keep him or have an
abortion.I already have a 1yr old son and I don't think I can affored another baby.what do you think I should do?
2006-12-18 15:36:34 · 10 answers · asked by marissa g 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
This is really a question you will have to decide for yourself. If you know you cant afford this baby, then do what you need to do. I had an abortion when I was 20, now I know it was a good decision for me, but I think about it everyday. I am happy with my life how it is but I always think of how it could be. Good luck!
2006-12-18 15:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by betty lou 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As hard as it is for me not to cuss you out for you even thinking about getting an abortion, I won't. Honestly there are so many other things aside from abortion you could... for one BE RESPONSIBLE AND RAISE THE KID!!!! or if you want to take another way out from your responsibility, give it up for adoption. Either way you'll end up regretting both as you grow older, unless you have no soul. From the looks of it you don't though.
Abortion is not necesary as there are always alternatives. You have a one year already, someone should of thought of putting crazy glue between the legs before opening them up again, but oh well. That thing inside you is alive *****. You can't just write it off as nothing only because it is legal to abort, it down right immoral.
Just give him or her up for adoption and never tell your one year old that he/she could have had a sibling if his mom was more responsible and not neglegent. You need to grow up lady and face the facts. You open your legs, you will get pregnant. Especially if you do not protect yourself.
2006-12-19 00:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...Please don't have an abortion. There are so many people out there just dying to have a baby but cant. Your baby could make their dreams come true if you gave it up for adoption. My husband and I are waiting to adopt a child because I cannot carry a baby to term....I would give anything for a baby. Anything. We are not alone out there....please consider adoption. feel free to email or im me (angelic_monster04) if I can help in ANY way. Good luck with whatever you decide!
Jen
2006-12-19 03:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by angelic_monster04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to both men and have a paternity test. if it turns out to be either men, talk about solutions. its not only your child, it took two to make the child. its not about being able to afford another child, its about stepping up and being a mother. you knew the consequences and now you need to deal with it, but again, you're not alone, you have the man who created this child with you, the child did not do a thing to be taken away by abortion.
just have a test, and talk it over with the man. there can be an alternate assitance. but its not your child, it took two to make it and the two of you need to talk it over. if abortion is what is concluded, at least the father was taken into consideration.
but remember, you knew the consequences, so its better to deal with it. would you have given up your 1 yr old child a year ago? how has it been so far with him? think about what blessings might come with your new child
2006-12-19 00:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should keep him/her, then give him/her up for adoption. Abortion is never the way to go. Dont punish the child for the mistakes that you make. If you cant afford another kid, than you better try your hardest in every way possible to keep yourself from getting pregnant. Sex should only happen if your married and ready for kids or if your married period.
2006-12-19 00:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by cheryl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is NEVER the answer. Adoption is always there and most states will pay for the hospital costs if you decide not to keep the baby. Please don't take an innocent life.
2006-12-18 23:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by lucky.bliss 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in the end the only one who can make the decision on what to do is you. you are the one who is going to have to live with yourself in the end. no one here should influence your decision, you and god are the only ones who can know what to do.
2006-12-19 00:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by lizincali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your body decide on yourself but i strongly suggest adoption because you wont live in guilt trust me
2006-12-18 23:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
abortion is murder...adoption would be the most loving thing you could and still live with yourself :)
2006-12-18 23:49:45 · answer #9 · answered by Justwonderin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about adoption?
2006-12-18 23:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by 1 Supermom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋