we lived together and contemplated marriage....we broke up because of stupid reasons, we still talk but now he has a new girl who doesnt like us talking at all...i want to be friends but i think its best if we are not. how can i get over him?
2006-12-18 15:07:13 · 14 answers · asked by AAF 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, it is best if you are not friends. better for you, better for him.
Do not call. Make a commitment that you will not call or e-mail. It is hard, but it is hard only during the first week. If you know that you can't call it is actually easier than thinking "should I maybe call" Once you stop all the communication it will all become a distant memory.
2006-12-18 15:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just know that yes, you broke up for "stupid reasons" but they were reasons that were big enough at the time to make you break up. If you were to get back together, who is to say things would turn out any different. I do feel for you, believe me. But continuing to have contact with him is only going to make it even harder to get over him. They say that the best way to get over someone is to find someone else. I don't know if that's true or not, but I think the idea is right on. Keep your mind occupied so you don't have so much time to think about him. I have always found that burying myself in my work made it a heck of a lot easier to get over a break up. I am forced to concentrate on my work which is time that I can't think about him. You will get there. You just have to stop focusing on what could have been and instead, focus on everything you have to do now that you have the time to do it. Try to make it a positive thing. Good Luck!
2006-12-18 23:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The harder you try to block him out of your mind, you will feel worse off. I have had 7 relationships, and 5 dumped me, I know how it feels. Letting go is not easy, don't try to. First thing is to accept the fact that the both of you are not a couple anymore, from there time will heal. No use trying to find another guy as a replacement, as most will regret whateever they do during a rebound. No use either going out late nights drinking, for you can't sweep everything under the carpet. I know that you will constantly have flashes or images or the happy times you had, but that is what makes a person, that is life. When you have finally gotten over this episode of your life, you will definitely be a stronger person. Good luck
2006-12-18 23:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by glastnot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you're right, it's better if you aren't friends for your sake, his and his new GF's. It's easier said then done and time will allow you to get over him.
You should learn to move on too. Try to meet other guys. You don't necessarily have to go hook up immediately, but looking around and getting to know some might keep your mind off your ex.
2006-12-18 23:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by January Flower 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do is consume yourself with hobbies. Reading, writing, movies, scrap booking, etc. These things take a lot of mental time and strength, which doesn't allow your mind to concentrate on him as much. If this doesn't work, begin to meditate daily on YOUR goals in life and what YOU want out of it.
2006-12-18 23:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by Azziz G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is hard to move on if he was your true love.. You just have to try to move on and still be friends.. If he still wants to be friends you should be..
Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!!
2006-12-18 23:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by underwood80@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you just have to wait it out theres no other way but that dont go gettin into another relationship for a while tho that wont help at all
2006-12-18 23:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by erin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a boink buddy
2006-12-18 23:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by Doc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Replace him. It's the only thing that really works.
2006-12-18 23:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bang every guy you meet.
2006-12-18 23:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋