my boyfriend is divorced from a woman for two years now. she goes from guy to guy to guy, house to house to house. she is very unstable. she lost custody of her three children to two different men (one is my boyfriend). she seems to have run out of guys to live with at this point and my boyfriend can tell that she is trying to get him to hook back up with her so she has somewhere to go. my boyfriend is very kind-hearted. so, she calls him today and leaves a message saying that she asked her 7 yr old son (who HE has custody of) what he wants for christmas and he said that he'd like to go out with his mom and dad together. i'm sure the boy did not say this. he said he is not going to even aknowledge the message. she does not like the fact that he found someone normal. i asked him what he is going to say when she asks him in person. what should he do and should i let this bother me?
2006-12-18 15:03:54 · 14 answers · asked by Hello Kitty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It bothers you because she's invading your territory, and you are perfectly normal for feeling uncomfortable with it. People like your boyfriends ex are very destructive to other people's relationships. Use caution when you discuss with your boyfriend, but the fact that he wasn't even going to acknowledge her phone call shows you that he's not taking her suggestions seriously either. It is probably a good idea to discuss with him at some point to just let him know how you feel about the whole situation -- and be honest with him... even if she's a loser doesn't mean you can't feel jealous or threatened by the relationship she imagines. Your boyfriend needs to be up front with the ex and let her know that although she can have a relationship with her son, she can't with his daddy. Good luck to you.
2006-12-18 15:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by suz_e_q_zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do,...do not confront this woman on your own, it is not your place. You should, however, make your feelings very clear to your boyfriend, and let him handle it from there.
She sounds very unstable, and she will always be in the picture, since she is the mother of his child. So, you need to decide if you can put up with her for a long time. If you cannot live with her antics, get out now.
2006-12-18 15:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't let it bother you. Hopefully your boyfriend has enough sense to stay away from this woman and the only dealings he has with her is for the child. If you are a good woman and it sounds as if you are. He won't do anything to hurt you, he has had the bad and now he has good. Enjoy the holiday with him and his son don't give her a second though.
2006-12-18 15:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by Htnspyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he allows this to happen, then he might have some unresolved feelings about her. Trust me, when a guy is done with a relationship, he's done.
Wait and see what he says and then go from there. It's not out of line for you to tell him that he needs to show some respect for your relationship by not going out on a date with his ex.
2006-12-18 15:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say...this is just the beginning! I am in a simiular position. As long as you are with this guy...you will have to understand that he has children with this women. She will always be in his life because of the children. It is something I struggle with everyday! Good luck!
2006-12-18 15:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by deezy89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the terrific ingredient to do could be to get a restraining order yet which will reason extra drama. communicate on your boyfriend what occurred yet do no longer say something to the ex except it occurs back.
2016-10-15 05:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it should bother you and he needs to make her respect you and your relationship! She needs to get her own place to stay, and be a woman, tell your boyfriend to stop enabling her to be sorry and trifling and make her be a woman and a mother to her son! Don't let her ease back in on your man... make her get her own, she had him she lost him now she needs to speed on or get peed on!
2006-12-18 15:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by Alicia S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually do not be shocked if his kid did say that...my sons are much older and still hold out hope me and my exhusband will get back together. If he is not worried about it then you should not be either. If you show her that it bothers you then she will do it again_
2006-12-18 15:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should stay out of this and let him handle his ex.
If he knows what he wants it doesn't matter what his ex does or tries to make their son do.
For this problem he should do what he's doing and ignore the message.
2006-12-18 15:10:55 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf has a good head on his shoulders by not acknowledging her.
Over look her. I KNOW IT"S HARD from personal experience.
Praise him for using good judgement in staying away from her and being a responsible father - and for being good to you.
2006-12-18 15:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by Wildflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋