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I Gues, " just want to kill myself. Why not? It's not going to get better." was a bit extreme but you know what I mean. Some of you read my story earlier. I can't move home because home was Gulfport which is no more after Katrina. I am stuck stuck stuck. I am miserable very miserable. I moved here with my husband four years ago. We have been married 9 years. He moved out after becoming involved with another woman. We have three kids 2,5 and 8.
It is hard because 1) this is his hometown. Mine is 1200 miles away. 2) He moved out but only three blocks away. 3) He is active in the community so I have to see his name in the newspaper all of the time 4) I soon realized that all of my friends are his friends or their wives and they seem to have no problem with his infidelity and moving out ( they have him and the girlfriend over for dinner, etc.) His parents are loving but it is hard to see them. ANy ideas of how to get apositive outlook here.

Answer 1

Look, I won't lie to you. We both know life is tough.

Still to an extent its what you make it.

I'm sorry about your husband but you also need to think of your kids.

I've known alot of people who've attempted suicide. Two of them are gone forever. Most survived and have gone on with their life.

I can't tell you how to find your way in life but i can tell you there are more options than you see before you right now.

YOU DONT KNOW ITS NOT GOING TO GET ANY BETTER. STOP ASSUMING IT AND KEEP UP THE STRUGGLE. YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF AND TO YOUR KIDS. You can always make new friends. You are better than you make yourself out to be. Good luck.

Hope you find your way.

Answer 2

This man is not going to determine the outcome of your happiness. Don't give him that kind of power. His crash time will come sooner or later but you have been through it. You have a life to live and people to meet and things to try. Don't let some selfish heartless man keep you from that. Get involved in your community, meet new people that he is not affiliated with and start spending time with them. Try not to look at what you have lost. You still have your kids. I struggle all the time being away from my family. I am in Pensacola fl and they are in aspen co. But I have made the best of it and met new people. Rely on yourself to get through this. Be thankful that you don't have a bad husband or a bad marriage you are trying to fix. You have a fresh start and you should wake up in the morning and say this is my day to start my life over. Forget about what the husband is doing. It doesn't matter. he is a awful person and you don't want to be affiliated with people like that anymore. Let him have his group of immoral friends who support what he is doing. You go find some that are respectable and fun. Start enjoying life again and remember he has no control over your happiness. You do.

Answer 3

First of all, you need to get back on your feet a little bit financially. Get an attorney. There are ones who don't charge unless you win. Take the ex to court and get alimony and child support. you don't have to live in the same town or even the same state to be entitled to some money. Work on getting yourself a decent job. he'll have to pay for part of your daycare if you work. Once you start being successful on your own, you'll start to feel better about yourself. I feel for you, though. It's not easy going through what you're going through. You can e-mail me through here and we can talk a little bit if you want. i would like to help more if i could.

Answer 4

Yes! You can never give up because you don't know what's around the next corner. Sounds corny, but I went though some hard time many years ago. If I had ended it all then, I would have missed out on my children, my husband, my family...they are now all that I've got and all that I love. It makes me shiver to think that, had I followed through with my thoughts, I would have missed all of it.

Answer 5

if he did it to you he could do it her too...