What do I do? My mind is spinning out of control with fear and depression?

Question

I am 17 and my mind is spinning out of control
I think way to much, and it's ruining my life
thoughts like these
1. Why Do We Die? I don't want to grow old, why am I even thinking about growing old right now, I'm 17! it's so depressing seeing old people sometimes that I get depressed, and am like "man i don't wanna look like that, i don't wanna suffer like that, i don't want to be made fun of by younger people, i don't wanna sit in my house and do nothing! I wanna be a teenager for life, I love it, I don't wanna have kids, I don't wanna grow olddddd
2. Why is life filled with tragedy
and why does it strike when you least expect it?
why do people die, why must people suffer, why do people take their own lives, why can't their be peace in the world?, why do people sexually abuse children, why do people murder each other
3. Does God Exist?
u always wonder, what if it is all a big lie?, there is not heaven, there is not a reason why people die? ther is no happiness in post-death

Answer 1

First of all...in a way, it's good that you're thinking about these kinds of things. Most teens are pre-occupied with superficial, pointless matters. In regards to aging, you need to understand that aging is a NORMAL process that has many benefits. There are positives as well as negatives. The obvious negatives include physical decline, passing away of some friends and family, etc. On the other hand, positives to aging include a rich tapestry of life experiences AND wisdom. Most older people have finally come to terms with their existance. After years of living & experiencing, they have learned to feel comfortable in their own skin, and the meaning of life has finally become clearer.

Society shines such a dark light on aging. The truth is, most American elderly people today are healthy & robust. Only approximately 4.5% are institutionalized (i.e. reside in nursing homes). Only 4.5%!!! Although memory (especially short-term memory) and reaction-time both decline in elderly folks, their intellectual capability remains fairly intact (if there's no disease process). Thus, the majority of elderly people are absolutely capable of remaining in the workforce and living a very active life. I could go on and on, but I guess the main point I'd like to come across is that aging is a perfectly normal transition for every human being. One could argue that it's just as normal as the transition of graduating highschool, getting your first "real" job, getting married, etc.

In my opinion, questions #2 & 3 are very much so connected. Life is hard; that's a fact. When times are tough and things happen which can't seemed to be explained, many people turn to religion for comfort. Others rely simply on faith (that is, believing that "good" will somehow triumph over "evil). I feel I can't give you a single, comprehensive answer to question 2 & 3 because I believe that everyone must discover an answer to these on their own. What I can suggest to you is to continue your search for these answers. Read about different religions and faiths; I really believe that every religion has something beautiful to offer...Lastly, I can say with certainty that when things feel gloomy and/or overwhelming, just do the best you can. Treat others with kindness and respect, and for those who don't return that treatment, simply let it go. The negative energy it takes to prove them wrong can be used for something better...that's for sure.

Keep thinking...keep asking...you're doing fine!

Answer 2

1. you'll stop worrying about that when you get to be about 20, trust me.

2. What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, We call a butterfly

3.Does it matter? If you are only a good person because a maybe god is watching, then you are a fraud and not a good person at all. (and if it is all a big lie, how are you going to know? do you really think there is a sign on a cloud somewhere where heaven is supposed to be that will say "sorry, you were wrong"?

Start writing in a journal, that helps ALOT, because you can always reread it in a few years and see if you have changed at all, it's also great for uncluttering your mind

Answer 3

You mean...
What is my purpose of living on this earth?
How did I even get here?
Who created all these things around me even myself?

God exists.
Human beings were created with a limited mind, it is said do not exceed your thoughts or you will go crazy.
Why does this world have rules?
If there wasn't any rules, murdering one another wouldn't be something wrong.
There is so much wrong only because the people created the wrong. Who does manslaughter, rape, war, and fraud? People. Everyone has a choice whether to do good or bad in this world, and for the wrongdoers there is hellfire which is the worst punishment of all.
There was a true story of an atheist and a Muslim, I believe in Russia. They were friends in college and they used to go to each other's house to study together. One day the atheist asked the Muslim why do you believe in God because this stuff was just put here. The Muslim then asked the atheist do you believe that atoms exist? The atheist replied yes, then the Muslim asked do you believe that electrons exist and the atheist said yes. Then the Muslim asked him why does he believe that electrons exist when he cant see them and he replied because when you turn on the switch of a light the electrons charge inside and make it light up. So the Muslim said just like God, you cannot see God but you can see that He has created everything and how His entire system is flawless so there has to be a God for things do not make themselves. When an artist makes a sculpture, people know that it was made by him. Just like the things around us they were made by a Creator.

This life isn't for you to stay here forever. Do you duty in this world and be righteous and you will have your reward in the Hereafter. Death isn't a scary thing, only to the people who lack faith. God does not ever give you a burden that is too much for you to bear, however, if you believe that it is too much for you to bear, that means your far away from god and you lack faith. That goes for the suicidal people.

Life is like a movie, you play your part, you do it right, and when your done you get your reward regarding how well you did. Everyone has their own role they will play. And God knows who will do good and who will do the bad.
Why would you want to live as a teenager all your life in this horrible world that has so much evil? Wouldn't you want to leave it after doing all the good you can through thick and thin, then live for eternity in heaven in the Hereafter?

God is testing everyone in this life. He created us for only one purpose, to believe in Him.
For He knows what you do not know.

Answer 4

Get your mind off all the hows and whys of life. You are nowhere near being old yet. There's a life to live first. By the time you are old, they could have a cure for everything you mentioned.. If you don't want to sit in your house and do nothing, you don't have to.

Life is what you make it. You can be and do anything you want. Some things will take longer than others but that's okay. Try the little exercise below and see what you come up with.

Make a list of things you would like to see changed... anything and everything you can think of... no holds barred...do you want to be president, a brain surgeon, married, olympic swimmer, more outgoing person, better grades, American Idol winner,.....

Now, cross out things that are out of your control (like the weather or world peace). Then mark off (but don't cross out)things that are possible (like president, brain surgeon, etc) but you don't have the knowledge of how to do those things yet...

What you are left with are the things you can do something about (grades, family things, responsibilities, etc). Take any one (or more if you feel like it) and make a change for the better.

Also, make plans to learn how to do something you've always wanted to do. Start with the smallest step and begin the plan.
College? Start a family?....Do what you want to do....

Get your mind off the hows and whys of things that are out of your control... Get your mind on the "now" and on the things you do control.... Make improvements on something that's in your control. Make goals and action plans for yourself.

Keep your mind in the "now", not in what it's going to be like in the future... You don't know what the future holds... With medical advances, there could be cures for cancer, alzheimer's, parkinsin's etc. More people will live past 100 and they will not be sitting around wasting away. With education and mental health, there could be less sexual abuse.


Live in the "now"!!!

Answer 5

All of your answers can be answered in "The Four Noble Truths" AND "The Noble Eightfold Path". And all your fears, worries, anxieties, depressions are mental factors which can be erradicated through following the Noble Eightfold Path. This is done from within yourself, as you follow the Dharma.
There is no god, heaven or hell-fire place; but there is a desire in every human being to find true inner peace and happiness, and to erradicate all negative mental factors, which cause us to suffer and enslave us. This is done through observing, and peacefully practicing the 4 Noble Truths, and The Noble Eightfold Path. There is no guilt, shame, or pressure in this walk and path. It is done in full mindfulness and with an inward peace with ensures success.
All of life's questions are simply answered through the study of the 4 Noble Truths, and the Noble Eightfold Path.
Be kind to yourself. Love and accept yourself.
Do not be harsh, or judge yourself. And always forgive yourself, for any mistakes you have or will ever make in this life. Be merciful toward yourself. As you always love yourself it will make it possible for you to love others in a wholesome manner.
Your confusion will soon come to an end. And you will soon begin your walk of Truth through the 4 Noble Truths, and The Noble (Noble means of excellent character) Eightfold Path.
The most important part of the Eightfold Path is the mindfulness of life.

From an R.N. - with a Master's Degree, who honestly cares about you.

You asked an Excellent Question !!

Answer 6

.Your third question is the key to all.
For anything to exist or to be, first had to be a plan, an idea, an
effort, of something. Learn all you can about that plan, and you will see that there must be a god.
That plan includes struggle, pain, death, and then stepping to a
higher plane, a plane more wonderful than any thing you will experience now. Getting involved in that plan makes this world
a breeze.

Answer 7

Yeah, its some pretty scary, uncomfortable, you could say torturous **** to think about, or to have floating in your sub-concious, I'm 19, I get that and other stuff all the time.
About the god thing, the question is, why would everything being **** and that indicate that God does not exhist?
I believe basically, we are **** to each other, and God could change us and make us all good and shiz but then we wouldn't have choice.... brief overview, something something.
out.

Answer 8

It's normal to ask those questions but you've got to get a perspective sooner or later. Think about it, the only way for humankind to evolve, renew itself & continue is through death. Everything dies. You need some spiritual basis. Religion offers a good perspective on issues of spirituality and God.

Answer 9

Be more cognitive, its awesome that you ask yourself this type of questions just dont think about them in an emotional way(which is going to be kind of hard due to your age...Chemical reactions occurr a greater level.) dont let your emotions control you, the mind is definitely superior than the body (the body is just a tool that is used to expirience earth's life phonemena) get your Psyche to a 100%. suerte

Answer 10

take some meds. sounds like you have anxiety. everyone wonders about these questions but you can't let it take over your life. so get some medication, you need it. you obviously have issues with your parents, so do something about it. if daddy didn't love you enough, find another role model, you obviously need some guidance in life. this is why religion has came around, many people find these questions answered by god. you need to believe in something, and just trust that whatever happens in your life is the way it's supposed to be. you don't have to believe in heaven or god, but what is the point of worrying? sit back, and think about it. just re-read what you wrote. you think about all this stuff, but what's the point? none of these questions are going to be answered. instead of thinking about death the way you do, know that we are all here to lead fulfilling lives, we want to LIVE before we die. go get yourself an education and do something productive, because when you die someday, you want to die happy and know that you've done something for the world.