I've been with a woman now for almost one year and has 3 children of her own by to different men she very nice but after a little over 9 months she has become distant and dosen't have much to say. She always says hey and never uses my name now. She is now pregnant with my child and has been for the last 3 months. We want to have a child but in the last month or so she is trying to get her other back from DSS. What should I do?
2006-12-18 14:41:46 · 22 answers · asked by chris122771 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well first of all, you're pretty judgemental. Why should it matter in your question that her children have different fathers? And what does that have to do with coming up with a plan to catch her cheating? Then you end your question with another tidbit about her children not being in her custody...
It sounds like you've gotten yourself in quite a mess. Here's my advice....now that she is expecting a child and you suspect that you may not be the father, I would ask for a paternity test when the baby is born.
2006-12-18 14:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by Bingo's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes women get a little distant while pregnant. They are not feeling well, hormones are raging and it just is not a good time to be in a 'new' relationship. If you suspect something is different call that 'Cheaters' show, they could help you out. If you haven't already...you might just want to ask her what is up. She might just be bluntly honest with you.
Also, if any doubts make sure the baby is really yours! Good luck to you!
2006-12-18 14:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by ilovechocolate75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming she is cheating and not just having mood swing this is what you do and dont do. Do not, and I mean absolutely DO NOT let her know that you suspect it. This will give her some time to get more acquainted with her "other" and it will also allow her to be comfortable in their meeting time and places. See, while she is doing this you are learning her habits and routines. Then on one day that she is least expected you will follow her in a different car which you have prearranged to use a week in advance from someone you know but not a car that she recognizes. If in fact she is cheating then you will see it. But if she isn't then it was worth you laying that question to rest. Good luck.
2006-12-18 14:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by starsmoonis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, guy... you need to RUN! This may be a nice person, but she is only capable of short term romances (during which she gets pregnant), then loses interest, and moves on to another man. She's accumulating children with each one. You definitely should own up to your responsibilities as the father,of this ONE child, but marriage.and a future... no way. Come on, now, she doesn't even like to use your name anymore. Isn't that a strong enough clue??
2006-12-18 14:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that she would not be cheating since she is with child. I do think however that she may not be into you as much as she was in the begining. I had a relationship like that were I was her and I was with a person in your predictament and I just wanted to get away from him even though I wasnt cheating on him. I grew to hate him for certain reasons and tried to brake up with him several times but he wouldnt take no as an answer so eventually I had no choice but to get a restraining order. I do not know the current conditions on which your relationship is based and I am sure it is not as out of control as mine was. No matter talk to her before anything is mis understood or blown out of porportion.
2006-12-18 14:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by chemistrystudentinneed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have too much to deal with now to show you the love she first showed you. Getting her child back my take up all of her emotions right now. I don't call my husband by his name very often. We use terms of endearment to call each other. It doesn't mean we don't love each other or are cheating. Sometimes life just gets in the way of a relationship and it loses the romance for a while.
2006-12-18 14:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try talking to her about your feelings and see if she wants to talk to you about what's going on inside her head. It doesn't like she is cheating to me. And even if she is, unfortunately, most people in relationships experience this. If you have children together, it seems worthwhile to try and discuss your fears. Sometimes it helps to talk to someone like a minister or a counselor of some sort. Relationships aren't easy for anybody, I hope you guys work it out.
2006-12-18 14:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by maloy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prepare for a custody battle and be prepared to take care of the responsibility of fertilizing her eggs! Child support can be a mother@$%^&* from what I hear anyway. Being concerned about cheating seems to be the least of your concerns.
2006-12-18 14:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is cheating.. you'll know when the baby is born!..
ask your self what do you want? do you like her? is she a good person who you would want to make a family?
if you answered yes, I say from personal experience.. don't dig.. instead tell her how you feel about her being distant and stuff.. if she changes good!.. if she doesn't ... prepare to be hurt =(
if you dig.. you will probably comfirm your doubts and your relationship will be over =(
Be selfish .. do what's best for YOU!
2006-12-18 14:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by RoseB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're heading for alot of misery.
3 other kids, with 2 other daddies, DSS. My advice??
RUN!!!! and don't look back.
2006-12-18 14:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by Harry Reams 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋