is extreme yelling the type that also sacres other people's kids and adults too (and other kids start don't lyk him either) and i mean th motherfuckin crap otu of u considered emotional abuse? my dad treated me this way my whole life and i hate him (so does my cuz and maybe our younger cuzs 2) i'm not describing it in detail and u haven't seen it but it is much worse than it sounds well now i don't have to live with him but i still have to see him so another question i have is wut do i do? i'm not 18 so i can't move out yet. plz plz help!!!
and another eally important question i needed to know is if this is emotional abuse then don't i have a right to hate my dad and wanting to breaki of contact w/ him when i can i get sooo mcuh **** from my family from it it's soo hard! he's ruined my persoanlity so i can't stand up for myself and any normal person is scared of him he's even trying to control my mom and they're SEPERATED i wonder wut he's gonna do to me when i grow up plz help
2006-12-18 14:38:20 · 3 answers · asked by mamama 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If he is abusing you in this way contact your local family services to report him.
2006-12-18 14:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a bully. Next time you feel like you're going to lose it when he's yelling at you like that, try and beat the heck out of him. You may not win and you might get your butt kicked, but at least he'll know you aren't ready to take his sh*t anymore.
You don't really have to go that way. I hope you don't. If it all goes wrong that can be a bad road to travel.
Remember that you have a value and a right to exist whether your father is a bast*rd or your mom is a wuss for not pushing back on your dad.
Try not to hate. It's not good for you. Put your energy into those efforts that will eventually make your life better and set you free to determine your own course.
Not to be an apologist, but though your dad seems to have the wrong response to stress and aggravation, do you think there's anything wrong with how you deal with your family, life, and him? It's possible that some modifications in your behavior can help smooth things out. Not all kids are right all the time. Often, really, they don't have the time on this earth to form strong and reasonable opinions and to behave accordingly. I know my approach to life has not always been the best.
2006-12-18 23:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by mattzcoz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's emotional abuse, and it's very sad. However, you can overcome it. Start making plans now. Make a plan for when you can move out. How can you support yourself? Can you go to college, or will you work? Where can you get counseling that you can afford? Does your school have a counselor?
Your dad can only "ruin your personality" if you say that he has. Many people have overcome situations like yours and worse, but it will help a lot if you get counseling.
I wish you luck! I know it's really hard right now.
2006-12-19 02:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋